ok so help me out, hitting and kicking

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DD2 has possible ASD and we know language disorder with modrate delay in expressive langauge. She hits and kicks and sometimes bites. Most of her temper is aimed at me and her older sister and she laughs while doing it. She has hit her sister around the head with a broom, been timed out and then done it again.
Also headbutrts
I do time her out and tell her off but I dont think she understands it, laughs and has no real effect. She will carry on hitting while being told off.
Anyone found something that is more effective? She started preschool this week and Im just waiting for the same thing to happen there too.

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ok not an easy answer to the question and I am sure there is no notebook answer to fit all. Have you worked out why she is doing it, bored? sensory seeking? attention seeking?

I suggest the time out is done straight after the unacceptable behaviour and firm statement STOP or NO BITING, NO HITTING etc. More language than that she will probably not understand. If that doesnt work try redirecting her attention to something else that she usually enjoys doing. Or a last resort move away from the sofa if she hits you or her sister.

If its a sensory seeking you may need to dicsuss with OT as it may be just how she thinks affection is done.

Its really a trial and error approach but let me know what works for you

We have this issue with DS2 (ASD, non verbal) and find that the most efficient way of nipping it in the bud is to give him minimal attention for it. He often does it purely for reaction, though sometimes the trigger is frustration.

We do very firmly say "no hitting!" but little more. Even that much response often escalates the behaviour, so we follow up by either taking him and sitting him in the time out corner and walking away (he doesn't stay there, but it makes it clear to him that we're not going to tolerate it), walking away ourselves (if that suits the situation) or else turning him so he has his back to us so he can't make eye contact and gently holding his hands so he can't hit anymore.

Naturally, as soon as he approaches us and behaves appropriately, we make sure he gets lots of good feedback and reaction from us.