Oh no I suspect bullying

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Just sitting here waiting for HT to phone back and wondering if I have put two and two together and made five...

So DS1 started new regime of f/t 1-to-1 at the beginning of term, every thing seems to be fine in class, but has been increasingly unwilling to go in each day. Today he clung to me sobbing and had to be peeled off me by the teacher. (This is the first time in his entire life he has ever cried leaving me -- he doesn't have, or show, any separation anxiety.)

So while this is going on HT walks up to me and gives me a very muddy, soaking school jumper belonging to DS1. At the time I didn't aks about it as I was dealing with extremely distressed DS1.

But now I am thinking. DS1 has lost (or is it 'lost'?) three school jumpers this week, and has come out claiming (to DH) that he never had them on in the first place, and this morning refused to wear school uniform at all.

I'm sitting here in a right old state wondering what is happening at lunchtime -- yesterday he was excluded from nurture group in the afternoon.

Would this make anyone else think about bullying? I need to ask HT where the jumper was found but would you also mention the B word?

oh dear I'm not sure what I would do in your situation but yes it does suggest bullying to me- especially if he has never been upset about going before. The 'lost' jumpers also happened to a friend's ds who in in MS school but has dyspraxia etc.. I'm not sure she ever got to the bottom of it.

You definitely need to ask the HT why the jumper was in such a state. Although she might just say it was left out all night and she had only just discovered it.

It's awful when you don't know what's going on but know something's wrong.

I wouldn't mention bullying but I would go and express my concern. I would explain it just as you have on here without drawing any conclusions. Hopefully the teacher will investigate and come back to you.

ask the ta they should be with most of the time so hopefully should be able to shed some light on the situaiton. also is it a new ta for the 1:1 as perhaps they are not connecting x

thanks all, still waiting for the HT to call but I will talk your advice Al1son and not mention bullying yet.

Think I'll try and get onto the Senco and ask for a meeting to review how statement provision is operating. Keep them on their toes, eh.

Bumped into both TA and HT when I went in to pick up DS2 at lunchtime, and just said I was worried -- as you recommended Al1son. Both very sympathetic and supportive and will keep watchful eyes open. Feel much relieved. Mind you HT followed up with 'how would you like to be vice chair of governors' so there is a quid pro quo!

Are they new jumpers? could they just feel wrong and he is discarding them? (only say this because ds used to discard jumpers in the playground and i would find them wet and muddy at 3pm