Another parent having a go

[fightingthela]

Why do some parents think it's o.k to go up to children and have a go at them? Ds has not settled back to school very well and didn't want to go in again this morning. Had a bad day yesterday, all the children in class getting at him,lost his temper and threatened with exclusion etc..
Managed to persuade him to go in and watched him slowly walk towards the playground. Then a mother went up to him and I could see he was getting upset. I went up and asked what the problem was and she said that he was not to call her dd a 'chavvy' as her dd had gone home yesterday complaining about it. I was sorely tempted to point out that ds has a problem in being too honest with his comments and can unintentionally cause offence. Instead I said that she should not be approaching dc's to discuss issues like this and suggested she go into office to see Head. She then walked off home. This is not the first time my ds has been accosted by angry parents and we even had one round our house once trying to kick the door down. They just make me mad

How awful for your lad. Dd3's school had similar issues with parents approaching other peoples children, we had a letter stating that under no circumstances should anyone do this, they must go straight to the office.
Anyway is she chavvy, if your lad is anything like Dd3 she is..

Yes Ineed2 she is chavvy. Her dc's are responsible for every nit outbreak in the school!

LOL... somehow how knew she would be!!

poor boy, how dare she attack him she should have gone in to see the teacher or spoken to you not confront a child, bully!

My boy got told off by a parent for telling her son that Santa Clause wasn't real.

In fact I think most of the parents were mad at my son for that one... :)

Fighting - I think it is so out of order. If parents have problems with kids in their children class they should see the teacher and if the teacher can't resolve the issue then the headteacher. I would never dream of approaching a child. Maybe mention it to your DS's teacher and good on you for challenging her!

Thanks all. I e-mailed the Head about it. This mum kept clear at pick-up time yesterday so we'll see what happens this morning. Hopefully she realises that she was in the wrong. If I went to speak to the mum of every child that had upset my ds I'd never leave the school grounds

I don't think it's right for parents to approach kids directly, but judging by your later comment that the child of the parent concerned "is indeed chavvy" I guess she thought there wasn't much point talking to you.

You say you were sorely tempted to point out that he can be too honest - why didn't you? I would far prefer to be told the reason for what I might consider to be unacceptable behaviour, that way I know what is going on and can either make allowances or at least understand the background. If this is a regular occurance surely it would be better to try and get other parents onside rather than looking like you think it's ok.