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How is your back to school going?

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sumum · 11/09/2010 12:14

My ds started Tuesday and had a fantasic day according to his new teacher.

He has just moved into juniors and is trying really hard to be good and conform (he has adhd/asd) but the stress is telling on him at home and we have had lots of meltdowns over very trivial things and sleeping is bad again, dispite 10mls melitonine it was nearly 12 when he got to sleep last night.

I am now dreading next week as he can't maintain the good behavoiur there for much longer

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SparkleRainbow · 13/09/2010 10:33

Not an encouraging start to school, I will never be able to get another job, as have to be constantly available for school and ds, am tied to mt mobile phone and feeling really down about it.....sorry, not very positive response, going to put the kettle on.

IndigoBell · 13/09/2010 10:49

Sparkle - how often do school ring you? We went through a period like that last year (which ultimately resulted in us moving school).

But the thing is, if they ring you and you can't come in what will they do? You can get a job - it is their responsibility to look after DS during school hours. If you keep coming in every time they can't cope, nothing will ever improve.

(Unless you don't work because you do HE. Which is my fantasy...)

niminypiminy · 13/09/2010 10:51

We've had meltdowns at home and every morning (except for day one) had 'I don't want to go to school'. But I've checked with teacher and the TA who is his f/t one to one and he really does seem to be settling ok. So I'm hoping it's the change, settling down to new school year. On the other hand, it could be that he's going to hold it all together for a couple of weeks honeymoon period at school before we see all his behaviours start there. Teacher, TA and I are all prepared for this. I guess there's nothing to do but wait and see... and try to fend of constant request for more lego kits (current obsession) .

niminypiminy · 13/09/2010 10:53

Silly me, did I write requests? I mean, constant demands usually accompanied by shouting, throwing things across the room, and cries of 'well go and get some more money from the bank' (I wish!).

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sumum · 13/09/2010 11:37

Ooh nimi you have just described my ds asking for toy story characters

If i ever meet jonh lassiter.........arggggg

Well seems a mixed bag for most of us, few kids ok at school but difficult at home. Quite a few mums struggling with the school!

My ds said on friday he had been so good he was nearly chosen for star of the week, I was so dissapointed as that nearly is the closest he is likely to get all year. Why couldn't his teacher just pick him, he has never been star of the week and he was trying so hard. teacher probably thought it would encourage him to continue trying but doesn't realise how very hard that is and that this good behavour cannot last.

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woolytree · 13/09/2010 12:10

At Toy Story...also my DDs obsession.

DD was made star of the day on Friday! :).... For telling teacher another DC was upset, then sat with her to 'comfort' her. All weekend she told me she didnt want to go to school/have school dinners...finally figured out she wants sandwiches so she can sit with her new 'friend' at lunchtime. I hope the DC wants to be friends DD tends to become a bit obsessive about one person and not a great communicator...reluctant to share her too! DD did this towards the end of nursery....the DC began to copy her traits!

starfish71 · 13/09/2010 14:44

Thanks for tip about woolworths on line, that may help! Yes all the changes there have ever been are very much to the forefront right now, very true that it happens more when he is dealing with stressful situations.

My DS gets a bit obessive too with his friendships (tends to focus on the one friend).

Lets hope that all our DC have had a good day and wobbles after school are shortlived.

mariagoretti · 13/09/2010 17:08

Yeah... star of the week . DS never had the going-home bear at all last year because each week that he nearly got it was followed by a terrible one cos he hadn't!

ouryve · 14/09/2010 10:19

OK, this morning was a doozy. We had the mother of all tantrums, very physical (I hurt from the effort of keeping DS2 safe and keeping him where he couldn't do any real damage) ending up with DS1 putting civvies on as it was time for us to leave. I did get his uniform in a bag, though and got him into school - amazingly, just 5 minutes late. His new TA greeted him and was lovely. His teacher told her she didn't want him rewarded by being allowed to cut and stick and paint. I took a deep breath, explained to her what I'd just been through and told her that getting him in at all was quite enough for today. I think she's forgotten that he ended up part time for most of last year

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