Shouted at by teachers

[fightingthela]

Ds(10) has complex issues which have no dx at present. We are aware he has exceptional hearing and various sensory issues for which we are awaiting an assessment.Had Ados test and told no ASD although he has lots of AS traits. He went into a lesson today to find TA putting out chairs and tables and was told not to go in. He replied that Mr .... always let them go in usually (was not being rude). TA then really shouted 'how dare you' etc etc he said fgs and he was sent to DHT who also shouted at him. Am now v annoyed as they have been told about sensory issues and you would think they know that the last thing to do is shout at a child with those issues. TA said that he was shouting at her and being rude and has a different version of events. Ds is very honest though and I believe him.The problem is he has very advanced vocabulary and comprehension and staff don't seem to 'get' that when he speaks to them on the same level he is not being rude. Just wanted to rant really as am so p'd off about it.

That's not a teacher, that's a TA, BIG difference.
You need to make a complaint to her line manager ASAP. She needs specific training to behave appropriately towards your son.

That's not a teacher, that's a TA, BIG difference.
You need to make a complaint to her line manager ASAP. She needs specific training to behave appropriately towards your son.

Agree with goblinchild - she needs specific training.

I have had similar experience with my ADHD son's primary school...Go above her and complain..I was made to feel a nutter for 5 years and my son was called all the names under the sun due to his behaviour and intellecual arguments over her sanctions...until the week before he started High School he was FINALLY diagnosed with the condition...You will battle with most primary schools.....but fight you must...It paid off for me in the end and the new school are fabulous with him, building up his self-esteem which the primary school headmistress destroyed....

Mmm, what about DHT who also shouted? There is certainly a difference in training and skills between a TA and teacher but, in my experience, not always attitude.

I think ALL staff need specific training to deal with the individual difficulties faced by children with these kind of problems.

I feel for yoou because, frankly, although my son is now undergoing a SA and has a dx of AS and SPD, staff (including teachers) who should know better will still do stuff like this.

It's attitudes we've got to change.

Hi,

In this day and age neither teachers, TAs or head teachers should be shouting at ANY children, not even NT kids. I thinkn it's appalling that she thinks it's ok to shout because she perceived that he was shouting at her.....eh who is the adult and who is the child?

Def go with Goblinchild's advice and complain.

Sharon x

Get CAMHS into school to have words x

Thanks all. Ironically he was meant to see the Camhs counsellor (for trauma suffered at infant school) today but she was sick. Have made views known to Senco. Said that ALL staff should have been aware of his difficulties and he should not have been shouted at. Not happy that DHT called ds a liar either! SA has just commenced so will also be making comments on parental views section about this.

Fat chance Leeds....not being rude but in this area CAMHS her 'school problem' and run a mile!

Fighting - In my experience CAMHS do not get involved in school issues. In fact you will rarely find any professional who will disagree with another professional.

At ds's old school, he got sent to the Head Teacher and got a telling off for using his "im overwhelmed, confused" card. They took his confusion, for him being "untruthful" and told him off for lying.

They just didnt 'get' ds and no amount of other professionals explaining his difficulties, statementing, dx etc, etc would change that.

I changed schools. My only regret is that i didnt do it sooner.

I changed schools. My only regret is that i didnt do it sooner.

Me too. FFS it took me a year to make the decision! Because DS kept telling me he didn't want to move. And in the end I had to absolutely force him to go. Then he comes out of school on his first (half :) ) day saying "You were right Mum, why didn't you move me earlier" Grrrrrrrr

Anyway - my real point is that there are good schools out there and bad schools. And it is going to be far easier to change schools than to change the school.

Hi Star, thanks for asking.

He has been back for a little over a week, he has found the transition from year one to two a bit difficult, everything being new.

Year one he had a lovely TA and class teacher. This year 2 teachers who share the job and different TA, not ideal and confusing for him.

One of the teachers is a young and very child friendly. The other is more of an 'old school' teacher (Deputy Head) and very no nonsense and stern, the "come on stop being silly" variety (which i dislike, but early days yet)

Just writing a note in his contact book at the moment. Ds told me when he came out of school yesterday, he was unable to read anything all day and was rubbing his eyes because they were hurting and "Mrs X told me tell your mum you need an eye test". He has an eye disorder, which could affect his reading.

Mrs X has not mentioned this to me or written anything in book. Phoned SENCO today and Mrs X hasnt mentioned anything to her. So trying to clarify!

Ds is scared of her, which is not a good sign.

He is such a sweetie and rarely any bother to anyone

How are things with you? it must be a relief to have the Tribunal out of way, even though it was a big disappointment, you must have more time on your hands now its over?

Thanks troublewithtalk - the passport looks like it could prove useful. Do you have a dx for your ds?