School transport

[roundthebend4]

need some help advice .Ds has school transport as his school quite some distance away .First day he cried and was sick .next day he took a book but then hid behind it the whole way , Weds he hid behind his bag yet ds is very communicave normally and very sociable

But escort is saying ds wont even acknowledge them at all , wont attemmpt to say anything .And was suprised when ds got home yesterday saw me and immediatley started chatting .Coming home yes he is tired so can sort of understand but going to school just seems very little interaction

Not sure whats best to do escort seems nice if a bit quiet theres 2 other boys on the bus to who talk to each other but there a lot more verbal and there speech is easy to nderstand

should add school journey in the morning is 60-70 mins due to traffic and around 45 mins to a hr home

I don't know, rtb4, but will bump for you.

would an mp3 player or something to listen to on the bus help? sorry no other ideas xx

When Dd went last year I got her a walkman so she didn't feel under pressure to try & say anything, and the taxi driver didn't feel he had to try & make conversation either. She was the only passenger in the taxi.

She had a jollyphonics CD, then stories etc and was happy with this- avoided the stress of having to try & make herself understood by a stranger even if her taxi driver was so kind & lovely.

At the time she wouldn't speak to strangers at all as she knew they didn't understand and I couldn't bear the thought of her sitting there for 40 minutes terrified someone would ask her a question

oh he will happily hide behind the book and lifts it if anyone trys to speak to him

think hes struggling more with the whole escort things and escort obviously finds it easier to interact with the other 2 boys

More trying to look at ways he could feel more comfortable with them or least acknowledge them , once in school he interacts with teacher and the salt happily though there keeping eye out as he is struggling in playground etc with other dc becuase of his lack of languge but will take turns join in games

could he take something with him initially to show them, then he could literally just point to it and move towards talking about it?? photos or something perhaps of somewhere you have been or a pet?? sorry probably a terrible idea but ill keep thinking its all i can think of at the moment, hope today goes better for him xxx

hmm good idea but not surew if its more the escort struggling to interact with him ,

Mind just might be more me as shes there to do a job not interact with him i guess

Just feel sad becuase anyone that knows him , knows how much he is a people person and enjoys talking and his laugh is one to stop people so loud and carefree

ah bless him, my ds got the bus for the first time yesterday and seemed to enjoy it i think but hard to tell!! maybe though she would interact with him more i she had an idea of what to say ie who is that in the photo, or whats that youre carrying or something? could the teachers at school give you any ideas or speak to the escort when they put him on the bus and do some kind of target type thing related to that?

or could the escort get them all singing something, might build his confidence with the others?

Sadly ds can't sing and has problems talking almost completley non verbal in real words terms think just going to see how he goes and accept that he will hide on the transpoerv

let us know how he gets on today, maybe he will just take time settling into the transport? fingers crossed xx

RTB, it's OK if he doesn't feel like talking. I met my mate H on transport, and we had a couple of other younger children on with us (she was 16, I was 18 and another guy was 19, then there were 2 primary school age children and one little girl who was at the nursery attached to H's school) Us older ones talked amongst ourselves but the younger ones didn't say much at all, and the escort with us didn't pressure them.

TBH, me and this lad had been on transport together for the whole 2 years of college, and when we joined the new bus at Easter of 2nd year, no one pressured us to talk iyswim? But it just happened eventually.

Maybe as time goes on he'll come out of his shell. Does he sign? Might be an idea if the escort knows how he communicates?

yes he uses a mix of signs and gestures and some words but have to know him to understand him

Am just going to let it go for now its just as he gets out of the taxi he explodes with verbalising and chatting

how was he tonight?? xx

tired crabby and soaking wet and sore and from what got from him he did it in school sigh will have to remind them that he wont tell anyone if he is wet.

But long week end as has hospital appoinment Monday to see genetics

And physio wants to see him on Friday morning which becuas ei dont drive mena sthe whole day of

Hows your ds enjoying school?