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so, dd2 starts pre school tomorrow...

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silverfrog · 08/09/2010 22:39

She seems so young still, and vulnerable.

She skates a very fine line between NT and AS, and I don't know how to approach that with the school. What should I say? How much should I tell them?

Dd2 is a funny mix of confident and outgoing (well, that's how it comes across to those who don't know her well) and incredibly inverted and sensitive.

She cannot cope with even the thought of doing something wrong, even the slightest thing like dropping a toy, or spilling her drink is the end of the world for her.

She is 3.8, and still in nappies. She is scared of using the toilet.

She is inflexible in her play, does not cope well at times with suggestions for extending it.

On the plus side, she has recently taken a huge leap in imaginative play (yes, I know its late developmentally) so maybe she is "just" a late starter.

She OS the sweetest little thing, and always so eager to please, right up until she can mo longer hold it all in, and then she just crumbles.

School know that dd1 is ASD, and also know that we are keeping an eye on dd2, but how much more input should I give?

They have said that I can take as long as necessary to settle her, but from experience with dd1 (different pre school) this means a couple of sessions.

Dd2 is looking forward to school, lots. She was talking about it tonight, as she laid out her clothes, but she is totally under the impression that I be where I always have been, right next to her.

Oh bugger. She's too little for this

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roundthebend4 · 09/09/2010 03:37

Hugs know it's scarey letti g them go

is is the preschool attached to dd1 school if so how are they with her

Twinky58 · 09/09/2010 09:55

I know how you feel. She will love it I expect though. Hopefully she will be introduced to the pre-school gradually - few hours per day say? You will be gutted to leave her, but she will probably settle in a lot quicker than you think. :)

silverfrog · 09/09/2010 10:15

Thanks Smile

no, the pre-school is not attached to dd1's school -dd1 is at SN school in the next county.

In a way, this was so much easier with dd1 - I had absolutely no worries about being seen as a pushy/neurotic mum - dd1 was non-verbal, and needed me to be her voice.

dd2 is highly verbal, and seemingly competent. but at what cost to herself? she struggles with so much - I can already see her thinking "hmm, I seem to be the odd one out here"

she will love it, and is very excited about it (she is going afternoons only for now) - i suppose I just don't want her bubble to burst, iyswim? I want her to stay this happy about it, and not get upset. unrealistic I know.

I ma not worried about being gutted to leave her - can't wait Grin, it's been 6 years since I had any child free time!

but I am worried that school is going to be hard for her, and highlight her differences.

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