Help! Think I might have made the wrong decision.

[jjones]

DS3 started school on thursday, he has quite a good statement and attending an asd base within a ms school.
He is only going mornings at the moment but it is very clear he is a lot more severe than the other children in his class, there are 8 kids and 5/6 staff and the main teacher is amazing.
The problem is that I am worried I should have sent him to ss. I know it is only early days but they have had to change the routines in class because ds will not tolerate them, e has to go in the quiet room at circle time and snack time.
We have a review next month, should I wit for that and see if he settle down or should I raise my concerns now. I just don't know what to do and DH is useless, just keeps saying do what you think is best, ahhh!

It's very early days yet, it sounds like the unit know what they are doing. It took all of reception for my Dd3 to settle and took the whole 1st term to get her in the dinner hall without her vomitting.
Don't panic yet and give him time to settle.

I would say, "don't panic" you can voice your concerns to the school if it seems appropriate. It sounds like they have made a positive start though so don't undermine their confidence, let them have a go, let him settle in and see how it goes. I don't think you can go wrong if you keep talking to them about how it is going, how it is working for him, them, other children etc. I'm no expert as my ds sn are different, but I was a teacher before I became SAHM, but I hope that helps. Good luck

My DS started last thursday too (he has HFA and has 1:1 support in mainstream school) and I'm finding it a tricky time too. It is really hard to see them struggle with the new routines and expectations.

I'm thinking that the next few weeks will be tough for them, but it is worth giving it a go where he is. No matter where he starts, he will always need a settling in period.

Do also speak to his key person at the school too. They may be able to put your mind at rest a little as they must have previous experience of settling them in and different capabilities.

Give him time. It's very early days yet. Dd went to a unit for 3 years and then to ss.
The difference was huge and the gap just went up and up and up. But she benefited from those years at ms unit.
She had loads of trouble in dinner hall (large numbers and very loud - so she came home for lunch) and also couldn't do assembly other than for 5 minutes but she got other things out of it.
Fwiw, she still takes a couple of weeks to settle at school after the holidays.

Thanks all. I might just be worrying a bit too much. I have got to give it time, I realise that. He is my baby and he still seems like he is. He is a lovely little boy but is on verbal and can get very violent, he hit a boy in class today.

Like others have said, it is early days. The unit sound lik they are on top of it, changing things around to suit your DS . As for him hitting a boy, that is part of his behaviour and the teachers/TAs in the unit will be used to that. He has a statement that states this, so they will be prepared for this.

I had similar worries last year when DS2 started MS school under a statement. I still have days where I panic I've done the wrong thing, but DS2 does seem to be doing ok. He didn't settle until the last term of reception, and has just started back today in Y1, so hoping he settles in better.