'mummy who will look after ds1 when you die?'

[saintlydamemrsturnip]

'because he's autistic so someone needs to look after him'.

So said my 5 year old :(

He thought maybe my mum could but then decided that would be no use as she'll be dead first (he thinks people die in age order).

I tried to explain resi to him but he didn't get it.

That's something you hope you never have to dicuss with dc but it's :( when they start to understand that their db or ds is not the same and will always need help

Ds3 has always been very protective of ds1. He holds onto him and worries about him escaping (he's half ds1's size). I remember him as a 2 year old telling my mum off 'granny don't tell doesn'tunderstand understand'. Lol.

Lol suprises ne just how much the other dc get it when do many so called proffesionals can't

Lol - agree completely. Ds3 says he wants to be a salt when he isn't being a train driver. He loves trying to get ds1 to say things and does a better job than some of the salts we've seen over the years. :o

DD has talked about looking after DS when they are older. He is already in residential so she understands that but she thinks she will get a house and marry one of her friends who is the younger brother of a boy with ASD (I'm good friends with their mum). They will all live together. I have told her that she won't have to look after him but she will need to make sure he is looked after properly and that he is happy. She is 7 so a bit older than your DS2

Ds2 is looking forward to taking on ss. Although he's quite keen to live with ds1 do he 'doesn't have to marry a yucky girl' :o

Oh, didn't register that this was YOU Sdmt. Hope you are all well. I think DD understands that decisions will have to be made for DS and that he will need to be cared "for", I'm not sure she is serious about all living together, she just wants to marry my friend's son!

We're fine except for the RAT that has set up home in our spare room. Bloody cats brought it in at 3am -we thought it was dead but when dh went to pick it up it jumped up and legged it into the spare room. Still there apparently recovered from its war wounds.

And we're worried about the jumbo dead spider in the living room! Our cat isn't interested in gobbling it up.

God - that has been over 24 hours of hell. It saw off the cats so we bought some traps. It was snap trapped about midnight last night then thumped around for hours. DH went in this morning- it was in the trap looking right at him, very alive. Ds1's very wonderful bus driver threw his coat over it and carried it out to the garden!

Cat flap now firmly closed!!

Mine could get cat flap open again by banging with paw repeatedly - we got rid of it in the end, too many dead things and also a break in using cat flap ! Sorry if that worried you even more but on the bright side, they might steal the cat.

got rid of cat flap not cat !

Ours can just about open the cat flap but I don't think they'd manage to get a rat through as well. They woke us up bringing it in at 3am it made such a racket. Burgaled cat sounds very positive this morning!