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Cannot believe it, some people!

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jjones · 02/09/2010 18:52

I was talking to my local parent carer support advocate today and told he something in confidence, how another parent had upset a friend of mine and possible stolen from them, and the first thing she did was phone that parent and tell them what I has said not only that she exaggerated it saying I had told all sorts of people she was a thief. Well of course this woman phoned my friend and went mad.
I know now that maybe I shouldn't have said anything but it was worrying me as my friend has been so good to this woman for a good few years and through her work has funded her to do lots of courses and training, and she goes and stabs her in the back.
This is not the first time this woman has made me look like an idiot. I am the chair of my local parent carers forum which she runs and both these women go to a local support group that I go to but now I don't feel like I can go to either again, I feel so betrayed.

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jjones · 02/09/2010 22:56

Am I being unreasonable to think that a person in that position should keep a confidence.

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Minx179 · 02/09/2010 23:46

No, it's not unreasonable to think somebody would keep a confidence, but unfortunately if the woman has made you look an idiot previously I would have had serious doubts about sharing the info in the first place

want2sleep · 02/09/2010 23:48

never trust an advocate or a social worker oh or anything the LEA promise is rule 1.

You need to confront the advocate if she knew it was in 'confidence' if she has broken a contract she could be in a lot of trouble.

Is she trying to put you down for a reason...so you will leave the chair of carers forum?? Sounds like a right two faced ....be very very careful of this woman and do not disclose anything to her again is what me thinks.

Meet and discuss it with the other lady explain this woman has exaggerated it...be honest and open....dont let this 'advocate' win and stop your input otherwise she wins.

If she did this to you the others will see her ways sooon as she will not be able to stop herself betraying confidence again soon....wait and see Wink

jjones · 03/09/2010 00:09

I do wonder what her motives where. In the past is has been more undermining me but nothing of this scale. I have no intention of telling her anything again. I have emailed my friend and explained, I think I may just lay low for a few days. It wouldn't be so bad but I have had the summer from hell with no respite for the whole 6 weeks and 2 sn ds's.

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want2sleep · 03/09/2010 00:41

she is Trouble with capital T!
You have mailed your friend now and give her a call tomorrow to get it sorted....longer you leave it the harder it is....you have nothing to lay low from...just ignore this person from now on. You have enough to deal with .... you dont need this 'advocate' on top ditch her fast!

Davros · 03/09/2010 08:33

What a strange thing for someone to do in any position. I can't think of more to say than that.

jjones · 03/09/2010 09:05

She even had the nerve to send me an email last night asking if I was ok as I seemed down when she spoke to me, wtf.

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