I KNOW I am being unreasonable

[Spinkle]

and over sensitive for that matter.

I had a day of meetings at school yesterday. I deliberately avoided lunch with my colleagues because I couldn't face the 'had a nice holidays?/ do anything good?'

Because I want to scream 'well, NO, actually, we were confined to about a 15 miles radius of our house, going out for a maximum of 2-3 hrs at a time, dictated by DS' moods, routines, anxieties and sensory issues. The rest of the time we played the same bit of TV over and over relentlessly, punctuated by tantrums and demands for food'

I didn't feel brave enough to lie and say 'great hols, and yours?'

I know they're only being polite and it's just chit chat. But I socially exclude myself because I just can't face it.

I'm also dreading the visit from the lady from the local Autism charity the doc suggested (he contacted for us). I don't fancy discussing my ds with a stranger, well intentioned though she may well be. AND I often get the impression that I'M being observed by these people.

I expect I'm getting nervous about throwing ds back into the lions den at school today. I haven't broken it to him yet....

Nothing unreasonable in that at all. Have a large cuppa.
I've never understood why people want a standard answer to the question "how are you" or "how was the holiday" anyway. Why are we only allowed to say "great, thanks"

Really hoping the autism charity lady is of far more use than you're fearing. There's some good ones out there.

Good luck with the school....

I dont think you are being unreasonable either. I hate being asked the same questions as I would love to say 'No, our holiday has not been great and I feel so tired I want to sleep for a week'. Instead I just say its been nice.

I hope the charity lady helps out. She will probably have heard lots of the same thing, and she might even have her own personal experience. I bet she wont judge you.

Hope school goes okay.

Hi,

When they ask, you don't need to go into detail but answer honestly and tell them it was rubbish!

people should only ask questionsif they are prepared to hear the answers. You never know they may actually be genuinely interested and happy to give a listening ear if you want it.

I was very much like this when I was pregnant. We were told that our baby wouldn't make it to birth ( he is now 5 yrs old btw)

When anyone asked how i was i told them. if they weren't interested they wouldn't askl again and if they were i could unburden a little therefore not feeling i had to shut myself off.

Hope you are feeling better.

Hugs

sharon x

Thanks all.

My DH feels similarly when people ask him too (also a teacher).

Even though we both work with people with some knowledge of ASD they still ask bloody stupid questions...

Still, at least it's better than the patronising tone of 'how are you?'(followed by a concerned look). Then, well, I'd just have to kill them .

He went off to school reasonably happy.

aww hun i do understand about the nice holiday part as ours was horrid but you know your ment to say oh yeah it was fab blah blah, hope you feel better soon xx

Spinkle - Know just what you mean. even though most colleagues know about my ds, they still have no idea and ask mindless questions about the joy of the summer break. I usually give non comittal answer, change subject or leave staffroom. ( I agree it is a bit isolating, but in some ways I get so fed up of explaining all our problems that it's easier to try and be a different person at work.

Hmm just trying to work out...

did i write this thread?

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WOW LUCKY LADY DID HAVE A GREAT HOLIDAY THEN XXXX