AIBU to ask DS2's teacher not to be too nice to him?

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DS2 who has an unnofficial DX of AS (which I am starting to question, but that's another story) has a keen, newly qualified teacher this year. DS2 is the youngest in his year and has a very sweet, otherwordly unstreetwise personality ie. it is easy to treat him as a an even younger child.

His teacher reported an interaction she had with him and revealed that she had used the dreaded "sing-song" voice combined with over-enthusiastic praise that is reserved for potty training in NT kids.

She clearly feels this is how you speak to SN kids and that she was being nice and encouraging him but DS2 is of "normal" intelligence and I feel she should talk to him in the same manner as the other children, to avoid further marking him out as different to his peers, (I try to avoid babying him at home).

Should I say something?

Yes.
Perhap write it down, then you can collect your thoguhts and get the tone right.
Deal with it now and save yourself a lot of hassle.

I need to get better at giving constructive criticism to teachers etc., I hate seeming the "fussy' parent but I guess sometimes you have to risk it, at least she is nice and its not a big problem in the greater scheme of things.

Hi, we had problems when dd2 started nursery, dd2 is very cute and love cuddles, she had a lovely key worker but all she did was mother dd2 and let her get away with everything, dd2 spent most of the day sat on the key workers lap having cuddles. Luckily dd2's portage worker was doing weekly visits and picked up on whhat was going on. (so i didn't have to say anything). I think we will have the same problem when she starts school next week.

Tricky one.

Now. I am a teacher - a teacher of small children at that. I can't do that singy songy voice thing - it's just not me.

Chances are this newbie will soon get the measure of your DS and will also quickly tire of the kids presenter thing. It's blooming hard being all cbeebies all day.

My ds (6 and ASD/ADHD) is quite the cutie at times but I think his teacher has him sorted (ish..)

I worried for ages about being a 'fussy mummy' (being in that I gripe about those in the staffroom) BUT I made the decision that I didn't care how unpopular I became in DS school staffroom because he needed me to be fussy. ASD kids come with a whole host of intolerances to a whole host of things. School NEED to know these or their day may become very difficult indeed....

thanks for your replies, I did my usual of posting and then rushing off to cook!