Hi, My DS is just about to turn 5, and has attended the nursery at his school since 3. He seems to have always had one to one help, but only just after Xmas did I fully realise the extent of help he was having. He is our only child, so I assumed, (wrongly) that the "special box" he was having, and the one to one with two other friends was part and parcel of the nursery group.
When he started school last year he was having six hours a week of one to one, with IEP's being written up and meetings being held, but I still thought this was how schools taught nowadays and all children were having it. It wasn't until I dropped him off for school one day that his one to one teacher explained that his hours were going to go up from 6 - 8 a week to try and help him become more independant, that I finally twigged there was something not quite right here. When I asked them to sit down and spell it out in black and white I was totally shocked, felt so awful I had been letting my son down, and a complete idiot for not understanding all of this before.
We have since had meetings with the school, who have been brilliant, and ahve put some measures in place for all of us to follow, but I was quite upset that I completely missed what I should have picked up on, but talking to the one to one teacher, they have said they have to be so careful how things are put, the whole issue seems to be floaty, fluffy, "well, we need to get your son to concentrate more, and this is how we will do it, instead of saying, Right, these are the problems, which seem to point to this, perhaps we could sit down and discuss alll of this.
I have now researched his "issues" and we have all agreed he seems to have proprioception problems, and I have now got an appointment to see a paediatrician in the next couple of weeks. But, do they diagnose fully? Sorry for the long post, but this has rocked me to the core, and my hubby is only just coming round to the idea that there are some "problems" even though DS has had us climbing the wall sometimes, and we have put it down to being naughty, when now I understand he is not.