ASD and meltdowns???

[genieinabottle]

Do all children with asd have meltdowns?

I'm confused.
DS has asd (4.9y), he does get upset more easily than other children, by this i mean he will get upset over very petty things (ex: earlier we were making fairy cakes and i had only enough mixture to fill 17 baking cases, there were 20 holes in the trays and DS got mega upset over this, screaming then crying his eyes out for over 15 minutes).

The way it usually happens is: first he panics, then he screams, then he cries (and on some occasions when we say "no" he will try to headbutt any part of our bodies he can get to)
But it rarely lasts more than 15 minutes.
And he has never bitten us, kicked us furiously or lashed out like a feral child for hours on end.
We never had to restrain him for safety as such iyswim?

For this we very are lucky.
But i'm a bit confused as i often read about these awful asd meltdowns.

Does anyone has an asd child who doesn't have them?
Or do these type of meltdowns come later on with age for some children?

Thanks for replies.

Not all ASD children have them. I think meltdowns are different for each child, some children cry, some withdraw, some get violent and some self harm. Dd2 just screems and has started to thow things around (not at people thankfully). Dd2 has only just started having real meltdowns but they are getting more frequent (she has had a few today). I wouldn't say dd2's are awful (although they sound it), they don't last long and i can often distract her with something (food or a number game).

by the way, the cup cakes look yummy (saw them on FB), both my dd's are the same and would have got upset if i could not fill the tins .

Your meltdowns sound eerily similar to my ds (nearly 6).

I wondered whether they might escalate with age, though he is using some techniques we taught him to calm down. As he gets more language (has receptive and expressive problems)we are able to reason with him more and kinda head meltdowns off at the pass, iyswim.

My dd's meltdowns vary, depending on how she is feeling -they are always worse when she's feeling anxious or is under stress.
Sometimes they are like your ds' and sometimes she will cry and scream for hours and try to hurt herself.

I think they very much depend on the child, really.

Thank you.

I find that that the times where DS is most difficult to manage (gets a bit 'wild like') is in shops usually due to sensory over-stimulation i guess.
He can go quite bananas then, with screaming, crying, flapping or jumping up and down and running off, and he will be like this for as long as we are in the offending shop or area.

But as i said at home, it doesn't usually escalades to very very bad behaviours.
We also try to distract him quickly, or remove him from the situation and it seems to help him calm quite quickly.

Marne, a friend has suggested that i do rice krispies cakes. I think i will next time...

Got a feeling I have seen those cakes on my facebook too - small world!

Ds has "moments" rather than what I would class as meltdowns. Blanket over head and tears; his language is very limited so he can not express himself well.

ds (3.10) doesn't have meltdowns, he might whinge a bit/decide to stage a sit in/try argue his way out of doing something or attempt to ignore the demand but he's pretty easy to deal with in that regard - we never have screaming/kicking, he's never unreachable.

He doesn't seem to have any sensory issues though (even BIBIC couldn't find any) and I wonder if that is connected. The ABA has without a doubt helped prevent & deal with undesirable behaviours.

Tibni- you have me gone all curious now... could you leave me a message on FB for the cakes pic so i'll know who you are??? please

message sent genie