What do you do when you feel totally exhausted and despondent?

[TheLifeOfRiley]

I've had a cry, I've spoke to a friend (i went round asda with her - only time we could both have a chat uninterrupted), I've applied wine and chocolate - all these were done last night.

I'm just tired. and sick of changing pooey pull ups. and DS's dad being such a useless unreliable twerp. and being on my own. and having crappy noisy scary chavvy neighbours. and having very little ault company. and DS wanting interaction all the time. and being soo clingy.

Ex brought DS home last night at 10:30pm as he was sobbing for me and was unconsolable. He'd switched from sat night to friday for the benefit of his own social life, and was trying to get him ready for bed at 10pm at night and wondered why he got all upset.

I could go on all day - I'm just fed up.

Sorry you're having such a crap morning. It all sounds very overwhelming to say the least!

Sending a virtual cuppa because I'm just about to have one, can you plan for something nice for yourself today?

Really sorry you feel so awful. I think feeling desperate sometimes kind of goes with the territory when you are parent of child with SN. It can be so difficult to do what other people do when they are fed up ie go out and do something pleasant! I have tried to get as much respite as I possibly can and I include in this a carer who will come round and look after my most severely affected child so I can get out of the house. I was very desperate a couple of summers ago after a summer holiday with no help and I kind of promised myself then that I would not live through another six weeks, stuck in the house with my ds, who at the time refused to go out, was incredibly anxious and very demanding. Whilst it was hard to ask for help and very irritating dealing with all so called professionals, getting some respite has made a bit of difference to my life and my ds's. Hope you feel better soon. have you managed to get any respite?

Sorry it's all too much at the moment -things can seem just too much to cope with, can't they?

I'm afraid I don't have the answer, really -I just tend to hope the bad feelings pass. And they do -I suddenly realise I'm not so down any more.

It sounds like you really need to do something nice for you. Is there anyone who can take your ds, to give you a break? x

Thanks everyone I got us up and out, seemed like the best thing to do we went to the park with sandwiches and drinks. Also even though I really shouldn't I have ordered us a takeaway for tea!

siblingrivalry - Yes I tend to just hope my mood will improve and I do bounce back, it's a case of having to isn't it!?!

cansu - that's just it, can't treat myself or have time out like most would to boost their mood. was invited to 2 nights out tonight (a rarity) and if ex hadn't messed me about I could have gone, also only reason I agreed to change the overnight stay was so that this morning I could get a long overdue haircut - which I had to cancel as he brought DS back late last night!

helensmelons - thanks for the virtual cuppa, tea is my saviour at times!

I am considering looking into asking SS to provide respite but I'm reluctant to for some reason.

You sound a truly lovely person just having a bad day.Your gorgeous little boy might enjoy respite especially if it is with a family