The only predictable thing about my son is that he's completely unpredictable

[Jimjams]

It's a pain because things we think will work often don't.

Anyway today Mum and Dad took ds2 off, so with only ds1 and ds3 we thought we would go for a walk on the beach. We went to one quite close by which has a wooded walk very nearby which we do when he refuses to go on the beach. Anyway - no only did he go on the beach- he went in the sea- up to his waist wearing all his clothes. Was fighting with dh to go further in. And he didn't strip off when wet (this is the child who strips off as soon as he gets a tiny speck of water on him). Dh was soaking, he was soaking (we don't take beach stuff as he usually won't go in the sea/on the sand).

Very odd. And since getting home he's screamed about everything and anything, and is refusing to wear anything.

join the club, weird isnt it

I really wish he was predictable. I've been trying to arrange to meet a long lost friend tomorrow (she was in my antenatal group- haven't seen her since ds1 was 2) and its been so hard as I don't know what he'll be like or what he will do (and there are 4 other children to consider). I have a horrible feeling she is going to be upset when she sees ds1 - really hope she isn't.

ds1 does it to make them scream so he can see inside people's mouths!

I just wish he would work out what he will and won't tolerate. It changes all the time. There are places we used to go to for hours at a time that wild horses couldn't drag him to now and I have no idea why.

As I was saying- he's just dragged me off for a cuddle. Then sat on my head - I shouted "ow" and he laughed and immediately pinched me to get me to say "ow" again. Hence I am sitting here ignoring.

he has a surprising amount of theory of mind- always has done. Weird. weird weird.

This morning at breakfast he was sitting looking at a leaflet about a train ride. ds2 said "ds1 that looks like some interesting trains can have a look" and ds1 got down walked round to ds2 and gave him the leaflet.

We were staggered. That was way more understanding than I thought he has. It's weird as it's kind of in there, but most of the time he is completely unable to access it. I suppose its like the time he said seal perfectly when he was 2 (and never again).

Just wish his behaviour was more predicatble as its so hard to plan outings when I genuinely have no idea whether he will get out of the car/refuse point blank to do something/refuse poiint blank to leave something/get fixated on something and set up some route to and from it.

Yes, its always changing isn't it? Working out triggers helps but the triggers change, what gets triggered changes and sometimes they are so obscure you'd never work them out!

and they change so quickly- that's what gets to me. We're meeting my friend at the beach tomorrow, but despite today I still have no idea whether he'll actually go onto the beach tomorrow or whether the whole thing will go pear shaped. .

And whilst I was busy ignoring him (pinching) and dh was running the bath he has thrown yoghurt over the stairs, bannisters, curtains, window...... sigh.

pmsl - just told my mum and she said "what? in the water? on the beach? and he didn't strip off? but last week he went mad when he got a tiny drop of water on him" Completely unpredictable...

complex- the pros fave word for him

I think the bottoming "friend" has her own problems- she does it to everyone. I keep away now. Actually I think she does it because her situation is the worst!