I feel as if i am banging my head against a brick wall

[missy10]

At the moment i dont know what to do and i am banging my head against a brick wall i have a ds12 who has adhd dispraxia tic disorder DAMP and is being assesed for aspergers i also have a dd 4 for the past 2 years my ds has been getting progessively worse violent out bursts towards my self and my dd ( he has tried 2 smother her with a cusion and strangle her) he is verbally abusive towards me all the time ,he has tried to commit suicide 5 times since christmas and at night he constantly takes food and smears it on sleeps on it ,he is also incontinant at night my sone has a ld nurse and thats it .I am also having huge problems with my dd at the moment having tantrums all the time ( we where asked to leave a shop this morning because she was distroying the place) i am sitting her crying my eyes out just wondering what i can do im also a single mum

Hi Missy10.

Sounds like your having a tough time. :(

What support do you have? Family? Therapies?
My step daughter now 18 has severe ADHD, was violent, eventually ended up in residential care under 24 hour supervision order, for her own safety. She is living independantly now, still medicated. What have you tried? Any medication?

Hope you get some much needed help soon. xxx

thanks woolytree my ds is on concerta and rispiradone my family help out the best they can but they find him very hard to deal with i have been asking for any help they can give me for years i have been on 10 parenting courses and some nights i have had to hold my ds in a wrap hold on floor for for 3 hours just to calm him down they seams to be very little help where i live for children like my son

Social services had a lot to do with my step daughters care, we tried respite but violence and trouble with police, reluctant to take meds....in the end her mum couldnt cope and we were too far away and lived in an unsuitable environment....a pub. All I can say is keep shouting out to your doctors, social worker....etc. We had to wait a year for the residential placement but she thrived there. Its tough on you and your DCs. Write to your MP about SN services in your area??? Im at a loss how to help you but sending hugs and support....open the wine, its working for me!

ss down here are crap as well when my ds tried to strangle and throttle my dd they still said there was nothing they could do because he was not as risk i have drunk a bottle of wine already this evening i know its not good but it helps

Call camhs.. Tell them exactly ( follow this up in writing.. ) what is going on, what help you have had, what you want to change and what you have already tried.

They have a 24/7 line I believe for those in imediate (sp) risk...don't worry about using it.

thanks thearsenic i will do i just need help and i cant do it on my own i was told to keep my dd with me all the time to make sure she is safe thats no help really just putting more presure on me

You mist be under massive pressure.. I would also go to your gp and tell him everything, tell him you need help and support now. I would get an emergency appointment for the morning.
sending big hugs

Your son was not at risk, but your daughter was, and they have a duty of care towards the families of children at risk.

Start shouting again, quickly before the budget gets cut

Agree with colditz.. Sorry didn't explain well that this includes imediate risk to others as well.

How are you today Missy? Did you get an appointment? I really hope you get some help really soon. xxxx

hiya wooly yes i did call them and they are coming to see me on monday as they are very short staffed this week so i suppose that is some thing 2 be greatful for

At least its something....a start! They cannot ignore you or your/DCs needs. Keep fighting your corner it will be worth it in the end. I hope your feeling ok today?....Posative thoughts. xxx