The babysitter was about to have sex in my bedroom

[Peaceflower]

Just wanted to share this, because I am .

Yesterday I went to see the Ed Psych about a statement for my dd (see my other thread). I needed a babysitter for my 7 year old DS (probably asd) and 12 year old DD (AS),and a friend recommended one she had used before.

The babysitter turned up on time and I thought all was well. I did notice however in the 5 mins I was there she made no attempt to interact with DS. DD was hiding in her room.

When I came home approx 3 hours later, DD told me she heard the babysitter wandering into every room, letting her boyfriend in, and then going into my bedroom.

DD then heard all the noises/sound effects coming from my bedroom. She was distressed and shouted at them to get out my room.

15 mins from returning, I texted DD and the babysitter that I was going home. DD said they immediately went downstairs.

When I returned home, babysitter was by herself and there was no mention of what had gone on .

Well, she's off my babysitting list|

How old is this babysitter?? I would tell the friend who recommended her to you, she may be unaware and if your dcs were aware of what she was doing her dcs might be too.

She is 17, and I will be telling my friend when I see her face to face.

Peace

the lack of any interaction with Ds would mean I would never use her again anyway.

But agree with TLOR - tell your friend. If she does this the first time she babysits, imagine what she will do once she feels relaxed .

Oh and cahnge the sheets [euuwww]

Dd says, "no more babysitters, why can't I babysit db?"

She's 13 this month, it's too young, isn't it? She promises to be nice to him if I pay her :)

Peace

Ds1 babysat for DS2 and DD when he was that age. But only if I was going somewhere local.

He was very sensible and knew to call imediately if there was a problem.

TBH I think it depends on your daughter and how well she handles your DS

Another ! Yuk.

Have to say I'd be a bit worried about letting your DD babysit, not because of age but with her own AS and dealing with another probable ASD sibling. But you can judge your their capabilities best.

My main guide when taking on carers, babysitters or anyone like that is "what would they do if something went wrong?". If you're satisfied that is covered then I think its OK. Oh, as long as they don't torture or ignore the kids too!

By the way, YUK!

Isn't it legally 12 to leave by themselves, 14 to leave in charge of younger children. Mind you I could be talking complete rubbish, you know your kids best anyway, if you think she could do it then I would give it a shot, perhaps trial run it with you just nipping for a five minute trip to the local shop or something, and build it up from there. Juust have to say again so

don't think there's any legal age, more that if anything sufficiently bad happened for authorities to be called you could be open to criticism at the very least...

and euwwwwww!

I just wanted to clarify that the law does not have a minimum age as to when you can leave your child home alone or, indeed, to babysit younger siblings. It is a bit of a grey area but is left to parental discretion:

NSPCC advice

Anyway, regardless I would not be happy with a babysitter shagging whilst she should be doing her job. Yuck.

Naughty naughty girl.

Not the shagging bit, I s'pose (though I can't help but think 'hussy'), but the lack of responsibility and sheer duplicity.

I know it is no consolation but think about it - at least they did not do it in front of the children. My dd said her housemate (male) told her his gf and him had sex etc while his gf was babysitting this disabled child. Gf said they were not meant to leave the boy on his own so they switched on the televison for the boy as a distraction.

Some people use Web Cams to spy on Baby sitters.

Pass the message to the local gossips that you are going to put a video clip of the baby sitter on to YouTube, and see what reaction you get.

Thanks for all your comments. I do feel uneasy about leaving dd to babysit, and have never done it.

I may consider leaving her with him for very short periods (under an hour) in the coming months, if only to give her a sense of responsibility. She feels I should be able to trust her with him

I've been leaving her on her own for short periods since she was 10, as she is very sensible. I would never do so at night though.

Anyway, I'm going to be a lot more careful in future about who babysits! I thought I had been sensible by asking a friend to recommend one she had used.