I just wish he would use the toilet. I need to get this off my chest.

[TheLifeOfRiley]

I am so fed up of changing DS, he will not poo in the loo (he is 5, has ASD has had toilet phobia and constipation and witholding issues). I'm sick of wipes, and poo smells, and smelly clothes, and my hands being sore from washing them what seems like a zillion times a day.

I feel so sad and resentful about it today (I'm putting it down to hormones) but I need to get it out fo my system because I feel bad and sad and tired out with it all.

I'm not asking for suggestions or tips or anything, this is more if a blowing off steam kind of rant to people who hopefully will understand and sympathise.

My little boy is 5. He still doesn't give me a solid nights sleep. He is still in nappies along with his size 8-9 clothes. I have also today attatched a sign to his maclaren major which states 'not all disabilities are visible'. I feel like every now and then it hits me and I feel it (the sadness of his ASD and the things he struggles with) all over again.

Gosh Myra :( Feel like I should shut up moaning. I'm so sorry! Even though I keep saying h'll never get there, I do think my DS will it will just take time.
I forgot I had written on this thread the other day, as some of you will have noticed I started a thread of my own despairing about the whole thing.
Can't remember who asked about bigger potties, but I bought the fisher price laugh n learn off ebay, which is like a mini musical toilet. I'd like to say "it's been brilliant!!!!", but so far the only one to pee on it has been my friend's little girl when she visited. otherwise, when it's "toilet time", my DS stands in it with his pull up off...
ANYWAY I digress... both DS1 and 2 play with it every day and I can imagine it would be good for a larger child as well as very motivating with the cool tunes it churns out: "You did it!! You've been on the potty!!" (Er, no he hasn't, he's just used it as a stepladder to reach his snack off the table......)I don't think they make them anymore but you should be able to track one down second hand on ebay.
As for worrying about sticking to the toilet in case you then have to retrain, I'm past that, I just offer him whatever is on offer - potty / fisher price potty / toilet and cross my fingers.
Good luck everyone. I'm glad I just re -read this thread anyway, it has given me a lift when I might have sat down and cried about this all over again tonight.

Myra 36 years ! ... my dd4 has an offical dx of gdd and asd , and i cant see her being trained any time soon either (she is 5).

Thanks for that, Helen2boys. I'll keep an eye out.