Only a little grumble, thought things were getting far better with ds2 especially since we've weaned him off his Epilim. After we started cutting down on the dose he had about a week completely clean and dry (no pooing or wetting) which I don't think had happened for years and it was absolutely brilliant 
. But unfortunately the past four days he's gone back to what he was like 9 months ago - not listening to us, being hypersensitive/hyposensitive or having problems with sensory modulation - like shouting loads, reacting to loud noises, saying we are hurting him when brushing his teeth etc., playing roughly, I could go on but sadly you all know the kind of thing anyway.
But it's the anger that really gets me. He gets really angry about things like being beaten on the Wii (he says the computer is 'cheating') or any of us doing something he thinks is unfair, or when he poos his pants and dp or I try to clean it up. And he can get very violent - while we are trying to clean his poo up, or when he gets angry with his older brother. And he shouts how much he hates me, or calls me names, and tells me to shut up when I try to talk to him, and refuses to acknowledge that his whole response is because he's upset about pooing in his pants again - he usually blames it on something we've done.
He's only six, and not very strong, so at the moment we can hold him without being hurt too much. But I don't want it to go on as he gets older.
And I feel sure there's a connection between the neurological stuff and the sensory stuff, and the incontinence (despite a gastroenterologist saying ds2 simply had chronic constipation) but I can't really work out what the factors are that mean he regresses.
Ds2 has been doing therapeutic listening since before Xmas although he's recently started on a new CD. Plus I try to do brushing but I'm not very good at doing it regularly, and we do exercises to work on his retained reflexes, which seem to help well and he has got used to doing them so doesn't grumble. There hasn't been any significant change in his AEDs for over two weeks. But we have been travelling on the train every day for the past week (due to ds1's swimming lesson) and I wonder if the noise from the fast trains has been getting too much for him? Plus we went to an awful motorway service station today with really noisy hand dryers (not Dyson AirBlades but something just as loud) and it bothered me let alone him. I couldn't even talk to him, we both had to get out of the toilets as quickly as possible. (Note to everyone - Never go into the Beaconsfield service station if your child reacts to handdryers).
Anyway, I'm not really looking for any answers, just a bit sad that we seem to have gone a few steps back again. And I know it's never plain sailing but I really hoped the improvement in continence was going to be more permanent. 