We are in s state of shock this morning!
DS1's AS behaviour is worsening again, perhaps the impending school term, don't know. (He says he doesn't want to go back coz a boy there is fat. , he's being very mean about overweight kids at the mo.) DS3 nearly ended up in casualty this am as DS1 jumped down the stairs RIGHT on top of him, and DS2 has been attacked more times than you can count. Last night however takes the biscuit...
We went shopping in Tescos, as we do every Wednesday. Usually we frisk him for sweets he has stolen, but he had pocketless shorts on so didn't bother. BIG mistake!
Went up to check on them at 9, smelled burning but sky was smoky outside so did a quick check and then assumed it was from there. Heard DS2 screaming ab it later, went to see what was going on, DS1 sat on him thumping him and kicking him. Separated them, couldn't work out what was going on (DS1 kept speaking over him, DS2 has speech clarity problems as doesn't hear well)
More screaming later, DS2 comes down, can just about work out something about matches despite repeated attempts at blows from DS1 (Me and DS2 being attacked this time). DS1 swears no sense in it, but do a search and lo and behold- DS1 had burned a hole in the upstairs carpet.
It's a rented house and they had put in a brand new carpet, so it was fire retardent and melted but didn't burn. But really scared about what could have happened- wouldn't have been able to get to DS3, asleep next door, in a fire and DH was at work.
Matches, BTW, were stolen from Tescos. We don't keep any here as we were concerned this could happen.
We had discussed rules yesterday, and amongst those listed (we were discussing his violence) by DS was... never play with matches!!
9 months until his next appointment due to waiting list size, DS doesn't accept there's a problem at all (smacked me when I tried to discuss), we're hoping next month to be granted a grant to go to BIBIC by DH's trade association, but what next? Carpet will have to come out of my student grant I guess, don't want to be evicted after our interim inspection. Can't exactly afford it though.
Dh wants it to come from DS's Christmas budget, but i think that's a bit much at five.