Refusal to do tasks...even when able!!

[reahead]

Wondered if any one else has had this problem....following on from meeting at school I was told son wont do some tasks even when they feel he is able. Why would this be?? Is this to do with having a learning disability? or a learning disability due to refusing to learn? wondered if anyone has any teaching techiques to adress this.

Also told they refusing to take him out of class (been doing life skills with him) to reward his behavour for not doing tasks they feel he is able to do (son never felt being out of class was a rewards as he at to work harder!).

He has general learning difficulty with specific difficulty with language.

would really be interested in your thoughts and idea's

DS sometimes refuses to do tasks when he convinces himself it's too hard - 'if it's not right then it's wrong' way of thinking so he doesn't want to risk getting anything wrong.

Does your DS seem to have low self-esteem due to his learning disability? He may have convinced himself that he's not able if work hasn't been differented to his level in the past.

Or does he have difficulties with the pragmatic side of language? If they're asking him 'Would you like to do X now?' he could be misinterpreting it as a request (that he can refuse) rather than a command.

Reahead - this is really rubbish. What do they do when a non SN kid refuses to do a task?

Kids refuse school / tasks for all sorts of reasons - but school has to deal with it....

And if they're not actively refusing, they're often passively refusing....

If the life skills class is on his IEP I don't think they can refuse to do it. You need to take it up with them from this angle. The IEP is a contract between you and school which both parties have signed specifying what extra help your DS will get.

Thank you for all your comments I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being unreasonable in my thoughts!!

Sugarcandymonster you have him to a T and if he's made his mind up its to hard before embracing ( maybe this has been difficult in the past and by association thinks its difficult) its difficult to win him round.

His life skills are not on his IEP so I will adress this also and will ask for the programme they use to get him back on task.