Al1son, we have a similar problem with our dss' bedroom. Our roof leaked last winter - we've had it fixed and waited for everything to dry out and now the main wall in their room needs replastering.
Unfortunately ds1, who is 8 and has ASD, just will not countenance us doing anything to the decor. I wouldn't mind so much if it was nice, but we just painted over the woodchip that was there when we moved in and put up a Bang on the Door alphabet sticker and that was years ago.
He shares the room with his nt brother who is 6 and desperately wants to get rid of the 'babyish' decor. I have tried everything, spent hours showing him various wallpapers, paints, room stickers etc told him he can have whatever he wants and he basically says a) he doesn't want it replastered as it won't be the same or b) if he has to have it replastered, he wants more woodchip painted in the same vile yellow (think Birds custard) he chose last time (when he was 3 1/2) and the same aphabet stickers above the picture rail - honestly I despair!
He is just the same about his duvet cover, bought them both lovely matching vw camper duvet sets a while back, as they are both vw mad and we have a camper ourselves. No dice - he wants his old one, that he has had since he was in a cotbed and is now threadbare. He did at least let me put the vw curtains up though.
We are having an interesting holiday so far as I have one leg in a cast so we can't go anywhere. Dh has suggested we all go out for fish and chips when he comes home tonight (basically to get me out the house and attempt to save my sanity) but ds doesn't want to go out. He never wants to go out - unless its to his grandparents' house or the library. We are going anyway, but he will moan/complain and strop the entire time we are out, in which case, in reality, it would probably be easier and less stressful to stay in.
Why isn't there an emoticon for steam coming out of your ears?
Well, ds1 has just had a major meltdown as he thought his little brother was about to tell me about a filename he had used on his nintendo dsi. Ds2 wasn't even going to mention it, but when I did prise out of ds1 what the problem actually was, it was because the file name was a girl's name and he said he would get teased about it. I assumed it must be the name of a girl he likes at school for him to be that upset about it, but no, it turned out to be the name of one of the main characters in the game. So I have just spent over half an hour calming him down, talking him through it and explaining that nobody would tease him about it as not only would nobody else know what his filenames are, to use the name of a game character is fairly common and sensible to stop you forgetting it in future. Its seems funny in the abstract, but he was so worked up about it all.