Back to the SALT on friday [a bit long]

[Ineed2]

I haven't really posted much background about Dd3 on this forum but we have a 2nd appointment with the salt on friday. She is going to test Dd3 for Theory of mind or lack of it. She has already been assessed as having problems with emotional language amongst other things. She was tested informally for Theory of mind by someone I know {who is a salt] and it was very clear that she has no idea that other people have different thoughts to her. I wrote to the original salt and told her what had happened and she said she wanted to see Dd3 again.
She has also been seen by a community pead who I have had 3 meetings with, but she feels unable to make a diagnosis at the present time. This is mainly due to the fact that school say they don't see any of her difficulties at school.
Anyway to cut a very long story short I haven't told her that she has an appointment on friday because she is a nightmare if I tell her we are going to see anyone except the Gp.
Has anyone got any ideas for how I can explain too her.
Hoping someone has a brainwave.

Ok so I decided to go for it and tell her. I said "we have an appointment on friday", she said "where" I said "at the place nr GD's day nursery" She Said "cool, with that lady?" I said "Yes" she said " cool, I love her". End of conversation. Can you believe her. Last time we went it took two of us to drag her up the steps and through the door.
I just think I am beginning to understand her and she moves the goalposts again.

Oh Ineed2 I so understand where you are coming from - although my ASD daughter is much younger she is still very capable of moving the goalposts! Recently I almost bit my husbands head off for buying her a Calippo pushup lolly thing, as I remember only too well the screams that ensued the last time she couldn't manage to push it up herself, yet this time, only a couple of months later, she's as happy as Larry.

How did it go? Am curious because not everywhere do they do the theory of mind tests. I don't think my DS would have the language to understand it yet anyway.
There was a very good thread on theory of other minds a while back

Haven't been yet it's this friday, but will let you know.
I will look for the other thread. I do think that the child would need a fairly good understanding for the test to be performed. But there are so many variables in these tests so I might be wrong. If its proven that my Dd3's theory of mind is impaired it will go a long way towards helping us to understand where she is coming from and why she gets so stressed over certain things.
Such as apologising when she thinks something was either an accident or not her fault. This will hopefully allow us to go someway towards improving sibling relationships at home and maybe school friendships if they become an issue. We will see.