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Advice/help with toilet training

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overthebar · 25/07/2010 11:09

Am starting toilet training with DS (ASD 4.1). Trying to use the visual social story which he loves reading but just won't sit on potty or toilet. He can pull down trousers (loves his new pants!), flush, wash hands etc but just wont sit. He has done it an odd time so know fear is not a factor. What is worrying is that he is not going at all. He was dry from 11am until 7pm yesterday (despite lots of drinks) and I don't think that is healthy? No means No with him too so struggling. Would rather he was weeing all over the place than holding it. His nappy was even dry this morning after all night. Starts Reception in Sept so need to get sorted. Any advice pleeeeease.

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Marne · 25/07/2010 11:45

Having similar problem with dd2 (4.5) so will be watching, i hope someone has some advice xx

justaboutblowingbubbles · 25/07/2010 14:41

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Machakos · 25/07/2010 17:18

Lots of practical advice in Maria Wheeler's book "Toilet Training for individuals with autism and other related disorders"

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overthebar · 25/07/2010 20:42

Thanks for advice. Good idea to forget about Reception as only adds to the stress. Copied teddy going to the toilet this afternoon and sat on toilet whilst looking at pictures on my phone but still didn't do anything. Just worried that he will do some damage by holding it all day!

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waitingforgodot · 25/07/2010 20:44

I second the above book. I got it from the Cerebra Lending library.
The main thing is to make sure the child knows to pee into a recepticle(is that how you spell it?)
I had a potty in front of the telly and put on my DS fav programmes until we got a bit of pee then praised lots. This is not effective for everyone though as too much fuss may scare some kids. I also put him in cotton pants which helped as he didnt like the feel of wetness. I hope this helps. You will get there!!!

Marne · 25/07/2010 21:01

Dd2 will sit on the toilet but not do anything, if i leave her nappy off she will hold on for hours. We are going to give it a go tomorrow with pants, dd1 has been taking her to the toilet today and shows her how its done but dd2 still hasn't done anything.

niminypiminy · 25/07/2010 21:33

I found sweets for wee was an exceptionally effective method !

sc13 · 26/07/2010 10:42

DS would sit on the toilet and do nothing for ages, then when we were away on holiday literally from one day to the next he started to pee on demand. I know it doesn't make any sense, and it's not practical advice, but you know, maybe it was some sort of physical development/control thing? This around 4 years of age.
He still pees on demand (only asks to go VERY occasionally though, you have to take him at regular intervals), will pee everywhere, etc. Pee is almost sorted.
Poo now is another matter...

Marne · 26/07/2010 13:34

Yay, dd2 has just wee'd on the potty after me bribing her with the trampoline, i said to her 'dd2 do a wee wee and then go on trampoline' within 2 minutes she had done a wee , she then snuk a nappy on when i was out of the room (which has now been removed).

ByWhoseStandards · 26/07/2010 17:26

Yay Marne, breakthrough!!

sympathy to overthebar as am having same problem here with ds who is on autism spectrum - seem to be lots of different problems all tangled up together with him, are teasing away at them. Am beginning a scrapbook about flags and capital cities (his current obsession) and going to talk about which countries are doing poos - as making it not about him and deflecting it on to a story seems to take the heat out of the issue and he can then add it into his train of thought rather than seeing it as an interruption, IYSWIM. It works for getting his eczema cream on and changing his nappy, anyway! Will give him a flag sticker for the book each time he has a go (this could prove expensive...)

Am concentrating on poos as it is not that much of a problem if he is still wetting himself when he starts reception as he can wear disposables and not smell, but otherwise I do feel under stress about it and that makes it worse. I'm not sure he even knows when he is peeing - it doesn't seem to have registered on his radar yet.

Don't want to hijack thread (and do want updates on your progress) but so glad to hear others are also finding this tricky and it's not my incompetent parenting

Could we start a support thread maybe?

Marne · 26/07/2010 17:48

Luckily dd2 will only poo at home so i'm not to worried about poo's, i would love her to be dry for school but we will see.

A support thread would be good.

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overthebar · 26/07/2010 20:20

DS only sat on Potty once today when I was showing him pics on my phone but didnt do anything. He just sends me out of the room or goes behing the sofa and wees. Support thread would be great.

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