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One step forwards and two back!

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woolytree · 22/07/2010 18:10

Feeling better that we finally have an appointment with neuro-disability department for possible diagnosis...asd/as. Waited since dec-feb referals, its on the 18th August yey!!!!

But dd has started wetting her pants, not at nursery, although its only 3 hours and we go to the toilet before we leave. But in the afternoons, out and about and wetting the bed. She goes to the toilet, a lot, has a potty in her room but seems to be having a lot of accidents. 3 today sofar....make that 4. Training had been a very slow process but we had got to the point she rarely wet the bed, even got up in the night by herself.

Im thinking;

a) bladder infection, she doesnt communicate well so would not answer questions or tell me of symptoms.
b) emotional problem, seems to be struggling with her baby brother now hes mobile, in her space and touching her stuff!
c) a normal set back?!

She starts school in sept. I was stood outside nursery with the mums yesterday when they all began to discuss why the teaching assistant brought the same older kid upto nursery building several times a day...I suggested to use the changing facilities...one of them sniggered at the thought of nappies or accidents on a regular basis! I nearly punched her!..They dont know about my dd only a few mums do for now.

Any comments/advice/experiences welcome!

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Marne · 22/07/2010 18:40

Could it be caused by a change in routine? (eg, end of nursery/playgroup, starting a new school).

My dd2 has had a few set backs due to the lack of routine now she has finished nursery.

My dd2 will be starting school in september and is not dry, i will be trying to toilet train her over the holidays but procedures are in place to change her at school. Don't take any notice of the other mums (i find the parents are worse then the children), i'm sure she wont be the only child starting in september that has accidents and i'm sure a few are still in nappies at night.

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woolytree · 22/07/2010 19:06

Her routine hant changed yet, we dont break up till fri and she is very excited about school/uniform etc. Im dreading the holidays.

She seems very spaced out at the moment not sure whats going on. I dont mind if we go back to pull ups but didnt think it wise as shed rely on them, get lazy.

Sod the other mums ill be far more annoying!

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Marne · 22/07/2010 19:28

I wouldn't go back to pull ups, hopefully its just minor blip. My dd1(AS) breaks up tomorrow,she's looking forward to the holidays but her behaviour has changed slightly (i think a mixture of excitement and the stress of the past week as the school routine has been a bit messed up).

nicky693 · 22/07/2010 19:37

My sons now 7 and he was toilet trained from a young age but has always had set backs, he has several months really good, then we have all of a sudden wetting at school and lots of wetting at night so have to put him back in pull ups at night until this phase has passed, he has been on and off like this since the age of 3. He has ASD and ADHD and anything can affect wetting eg:change of routine. Also at school he doesnt drink much and not drinking can stimulate the bladder which causes wetting. When my son drinks lots the wetting calms down.

Ignore the other mums, wetting is one of those things that for some reason no one likes to talk about but i bet there are several of those mums who have had or have problems with their child wetting but would dare not talk about it.

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woolytree · 22/07/2010 21:01

Thankyou both for your advice.

I just put her to bed and whilst I was settling ds she wet again...her potty was 1m away! Id better get more pants! It occured to me the stress maybe due to dh having last week off then doing overtime this week so shes barely seen him.

I talk about everything to everyone...Ill wait to suss out the school Mum crowd and make some allies at playgroup! Mwahahaha!

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nicky693 · 22/07/2010 21:51

my husband works shifts and DS wets the bed more when he doesnt see his dad at night time. Bless Or if his shifts are all out.

Yeah, im the same, dont understand this stigma with bedwetting. I talk about it to every one to

jackny · 22/07/2010 22:52

My DS is starting school in September as well. He is dry in the day but will only use a potty. I am trying to get him over the toilet phobia but school (MS with ASD unit) will discreetly use a potty if necessary. Schools have to find a way of discreetly dealing with these issues - a lot of NT kids have accidents and can't wipe themselves. Does your DD have a Statement or on School action/action plus? Could you have a quiet word with the teacher so that help with toileting could be included in IEP?

Marne · 23/07/2010 11:58

janky, my dd1 had a toilet phobia, it took a while to get her to use the toilet at school (she would hang on until home time), luckily the TA managed to get her used to it by taking her each day (if i had done this she would have screamed). It sounds like the school are being very understanding, my dd1's school would not let her take her plastic toilet seat in to school.

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