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I just don't know how I'll ever potty train ds.

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emkana · 18/07/2010 22:13

He was four in June. He has short-limbed dwarfism, but is also developmentally delayed, esp with his speech. He shows no awareness of needing to poo or wee - but will take himself off to be by himself when does a poo. Poos are still very soft (sorry tmi). Due to his condition he has a big belly and bum and short arms and legs, which makes it extremely difficult for him to pull trousers up and down - he can't really do it at all yet. I just have no idea how to approach potty training with him. But he is starting school in September... school have been nice and have said they can do a personal care plan so that somebody will look after his nappy changes, but ds can be very awkward with people and at the moment I just can't see him happily lying down to be changed by someone other than me, dh or his grandmother either. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaargh am panicking aobut htis!

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wasuup3000 · 18/07/2010 22:24

Is there anyone you can ask for advice a medical paed via your GP maybe useful?

BialystockandBloom · 18/07/2010 22:39

Offering sympathy really, as I'm afraid I haven't got much in the way of practical advice - struggling to potty train ds too (3.3 probably ASD - in our case I think it's unwillingness more than anything else).

Have you tried it at all yet?

The problem of him being able to pull his own trousers up/down might be helped by someone else doing it? I wouldn't think it would matter at this stage if someone else does it.

Is he at pre-school/nursery? What happens there - presumably they must change his nappies?

Great that the school is being supportive, at least.

Sorry I can't be any help but wish you good luck, and will watch this thread.

dinosaur · 18/07/2010 22:40

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emkana · 18/07/2010 22:44

He's all right at playgroup because it's only 2.5 hours, he has a fresh pull up when he goes and I just change him when he comes back.

We tried it a couple of months ago for a day, he stopped peeing altogether and then got very distressed because he wanted to poo and didn't have a nappy on to do it in, but he was adamant he wasn't going to sit down to do a poo!

I will try and have him run around naked in the garden in the holidays, trouble is he is very keen on "sticking to the rules", and so won't like the idea of being naked when everybody else is dressed...

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dinosaur · 18/07/2010 23:00

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sumum · 18/07/2010 23:01

I am trying to toilet train my four year old (gdd)without much success. i can catch a few wees in potty but there is no recognition from him of needing to go before it happens. Nursery are toileting him every twenty mins!! but that is not practicle at home.

The only small tip I have is to line his pull ups with a sheet of kitchen roll soit feels wet when he does wee.

Also don't feel bad about him being changed at school as they should be able to gradually get him used to it on visits.

emkana · 18/07/2010 23:05

dinosaur

don't think that's the way forward for ds though, his legs are the same length as an 18 month old's...

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dinosaur · 18/07/2010 23:17

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emkana · 18/07/2010 23:18

ah yes I have wondered about those before

anybody know where I could get them from?

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roundthebend4 · 19/07/2010 06:07

Hmm think mothercare do them or try a camping stool step we got a folding one for about £5 t, what about grab handals on the wall to hold on to .ds struggles to as his feet are nowhere near the floor

PolarEyes · 19/07/2010 09:39

Is it one of these you're thinking about cgi.ebay.co.uk/lipski-toilet-training-seat-step-and-handles-/160457871299?cmd=ViewItem&pt=UK_Baby_Po tty_Training&hash=item255c08cfc3. We've got one tbh they are not the sturdiest thing and if it isn't a snug fit for your loo it can be a bit wobbly.

roundthebend4 · 19/07/2010 10:14

How does he do in tracsuits as they tend to be bit easier to pull up down ,

PolarEyes · 19/07/2010 10:25

was just going to suggest boxer shorts, in the biggest size you can get away with without them falling straight down.

Incontinence nurse advised me to introduce set toilet times (e.g. after breakfast, lunch, evening meal, bath) whilst still in nappies, and just to encourage them to sit on loo (with nappy fine). The once routine is established lose the nappies and follow them around with a potty for a couple of days.

roundthebend4 · 19/07/2010 11:19

And don't worry about school .ds shall be having a royal bum wiper come September and he be in year 1

dinosaur · 19/07/2010 17:14

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emkana · 19/07/2010 18:10

Thank you everyone for all your ideas and suggestions and dinosaur - wow! That is so kind of you! Yes I am in the UK, maybe you could email me? emkana at gmx dot net

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