Just had an odd letter from DD's Psychologist

[KatyMac]

Who says she is more worried about my mental health, than about DD's

I feel a bit

Does it say why?

Honestly the pressure and stress your already under.. Why do they do this? Grrr for you.

Does she have a small point, KatyMac? With all the stress you have been under with your DH's health, your health, running a business, trying to secure premises, now your DD's health, it would be no surprise if your mental health was suffering. It doesn't mean she thinks you're a fruitloop .

She seems to alternate between saying I don't do enough with DD to saying I organise to much of her life

I am under stress - it is in balance (or it was until this with DD) & apparently my body has made decisions for me (to work from home) by creating ME & IBS. Umm they were diagnosed years before I even had DD never mind started working from home

If you child normally has about half the holidays as structured activities & half at home; then the year she loses her sight she has to spend the whole holiday at home. Would I be odd in thinking it would be a difficult holiday for her? No books, little TV/DS/Computer, living in a different village to her friends??

But no - it will be nice for DD & I to spend time together in the holidays.......while I work a 50 hr week

In my experience, the focus on parents mental health can be a red herring (not to say it is here as I don't know much about your experience).

There's little point offering psychological help/counselling to someone whose problems are practical - e.g., no provision for their child in the summer holidays.

Also, if your daughter has just lost her sight, isn't it natural to have some sort of mental health problems, e.g., grief and loss and fear for the future? I would ask the psychologist how she would feel if her child lost their sight

Oh I love when the body decides your under stress.. Mine does this.. IBS and migraines! Lovely stuff.. You have my empathy!

I'd just tell her that yes it is really hard work trying to get the balance right.. What would she suggest? ( I.e all help welcome).. Should go down better than going grrrrr( which is probably what you want to do.. I know I would).

Regarding stress levels.. I can only tell you how I cope ( I also run a business from home, have ds2.. And tw NT dc's with their own issues And a dh who although mostly fine isn't in the best of health... Rather dodgey liver and always in for tests etc).

( at this point I am wondering how I do cope.. )

basically I run the business around the dc's... So when they are at school, at my mums ( thanks mum).. And when they are in bed.

If I get the time I run.. Even if it's just 20 mins..
( obviously with me that would be a bit hard.. But the point is I do something just for me with noone around)

I make sure I do something daft everyday.. Even if it's racing with a trolley in sainsburys!

But mostly I try and section my life.. So it doesn't all get too much in one go.

Hth a little bit

It isn't a problem that there is no provision - I just suggested that it would be a hard summer for DD, with no sight & no activities

My stress levels were OK (ish) before this situation - now they are through the roof (surprise surprise)

I'd like to cancel everything over the summer & see how DD is in Sept (bet they don't like that)