Am I being a loon? LEA woman

[ReasonableDoubt]

Have to be careful, as I think I might have been rumbled on these boards (so may be changing name again soon).

Just after some advice on how to handle this situation.

There is a parent who attends the same after school club for kids with ASC as our family (with her son). She is quite friendly and chatty with DH but quite frosty with me. We just havent really taken to each other, I guess.

Anyway, it turns out she works for the LEA as a parent advisor (or some such role). I have kept a polite distance from her since finding this out, as we are in quite a tricky situation at the moment, with DS's proposed statement going back to panel imminently and relations with the LEA a bit tense.

At this week's club she didn't speak to me, avoided eye contact with me and was generally quite frosty. No problem with me, to be honest. I was happy chatting to other people. But later, I saw her chatting to my DH, who told me afterwards that she knew all about DS's case (his statement, situation at school etc) - right down to the school we only named last week (!) - details that she could only have found out from his case officer or panel members. DH didn't question her about it during the conversation, as he says he was quite stunned that she knew all of this.

AIBU to feel quite furious about this? Furious that: a) she knows in detail about my DS's life, through gossiping with her mates at the LEA, and that b) she felt it appropriate to share this information with my DH, as if it was perfectly acceptable for her to know all of this...

I felt quite disproportionately outraged by her. Am I being a loon?

No YANBU. The problem is not that she knows the information which she may have been privy to as part of her professional role but she should not have revealed that knowledge to your husband.

Two choices, suck it up or complain about her conduct to her line manager and have more frosty looks!

I would probably go with the latter.

No you are not being a loon. I would be furious as well. She sounds like she works for Parent Partnership. This is probably why she could have had all that information.

Would also report her to her line manager; her conduct is unprofessional as is the LEA's for talking to her about your son's case.

YANBU at all - I would report her too. And why on earth is she only talking to your husband? That's just strange.

I would be livid. It sounds to me that she has acted in a completely unprofessional manner.

Thanks all.

My husband is much more outgoing and (if I'm being honest) friendly than me, so he chats to anyone. However, he was quite shocked and put out by what she said, too, he just had a delayed reaction e.g. when we were driving away he asked me if I thought it was weird that she knew all this stuff and had then virtually boasted about her 'inner knowledge' to him (answer: urrrr...yeah)

I'm not sure whether to complain or not. I seem to spend my whole life complaining to the LEA. But I'm glad you all think it was unprofessional and weird behaviour, too!

It was unprofessional and weird. If you can find out her line manager, I would mention it, as this is probably breaking all kinds of laws/rules; such as data protection.

no youre not being a loon-
the woman was unprofessional and i feel you should complain!
if she s walking around like this-who knows whos shes talking to and about what!
if she s being like this with you she might be being like this with others aswell!
and yes-Data protection!
yep-i wouldnt be too happy with this aswell!

sorry-Reasonabledoubt i forgot to mention-
[have to be careful as i think i might have been rumbled on these boards...]

by who?
are you saying by people like education ect?
ifso-
no dont change youre name-you have every right to say what you want!
if someone does/is following you about to see what youre saying ect-well-that says more about them than you !
this is a support place and it would be rather crappy of them to be doing this-
and tottally unproffessional!
lowest of the lowest really!
oh and we do have section 8 of the human rights act!
i was a bit worried a while back[somewhere else]that i was being chased-but i then come to the conclusion that-i didnt give a f as-
what would they do?tell me they saw me saying whatever wherever?then id ask them why was they chasing me-and to put the lot in writing-this wouldnt look good for them at all!
if this did happen-id shout it from the rooftops-really show them up!
if i was[say]sat in a meeting and something come up and i knew i hadnt mentioned it to them but knew they was refering to something i had said elsewhere-id ask them how come theyre saying this!!
hope this helps!