Come sob/moan here, it's report time

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I don;t even know why they bothered giving DS2 a school report. He needs help in everything (except ICT which he got excellent ) and the report simply highlights it even more. I know he can't write or read and that he isn't experienced in maths.

I could cry reading it. Compared to DS1's who has excellent in everything (except dance) it makes a horribl read.

The only nice thing is his teachers comments about going to miss DS2's positive attitude.

Anyone else hate report day?

On a plus note, he is going to be in the same class as all his friends.

Ho hum. What can I say. I did shed a little tear when I read ds's report. He is behind in all areas but has made good progress.

He did get a for effort and b for behaviour which for a child with adhd I think is pretty good.

ds2 just finishing yr 2 and isn't on the nc levels yet (almost) BUT his report was lovely, honest and very def his report. His teacher & LSA both wrote some lovely things.
We are very proud at how much he has come on this yr.

I did cry reading DS1's report, but that's because it was lovely. His difficulties (and sheer stubbornness) with even engaging with the curriculum in certain areas were acknowledged, but the worked that he'd put into overcoming his anxiety was also acknowledged. His teacher was tearing up when I was talking to her about it, this morning, too. It's been a rough ride for everyone.

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I read my son's report and considering his difficulties he has done very well indeed. I don't take a lot of notice of such things though, I go more by the general progress made.

I actually felt more upset seeing some Mum's actually opening their child's reports at the school gates, just wanted to get the hell away from there that particular day.

I am pleased with the progress DS has made this year (Y1) but his report still made me cry and not for a good reason.

His teachers were reasonably positive whilst acknowledging his difficulties, but the headteacher's comment at the end ruined it all for me, was so perfunctory and dismissive that she might as well have said 'DS is not the kind of child I want to have in my school but I know I have to put up with him for another year'.

It wouldn't be so bad (I might have assumed that she was as perfunctory about all children ) if it hadn't been for the fact that the secretary f*cked up the photocopying last year, meaning we all got the first 2 pages of our child's report and the second 2 of someone else's child . So I saw exactly what sort of glowing, delighted-with-progress and oh-what-a-lovely-child sort of comments she wrote about someone else.

I am with indigobell now, though. Spent a good few days feeling weepy and miserable, and now I'm back with a bit more fighting spirit.

We had the same with ds report. Headteacher didn't bother summing it all up, just stated a few facts and that his behaviour has got worse.

One wonders what point he was trying to make. Maybe it was to put on record that my lad is a problem.

As a teacher myself, I can 'read through the lines' of what they wrote.

Back in the envelope it goes.

My Dd3's teacher made a stupid comment about Dd3 being happy to play football with her at playtime...errr maybe because she finds it so difficult to play with they other children!!!
I knew she had been missing my point all year.

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I would recommend communicate in print 2 its a fab programme for writing and has symbols pictures to. Its kinda like a word programme for children with sn. Also switch it maker os good for children who can activate a switch as you can put stories on it and in effect they can read a book.

hth

Just had ds1's report today and while I am pleased that he is doing well academically, I was upset and disappointed that it made absolutely no reference to the fact that he has achieved all that despite coping with ASD and daily bullying.

To read the report you would think he was a very able and confident pupil with excellent attainment and therefore there's nothing to worry about and that's so not the case.

We have been on a treadmill of appointments with the Head, his teacher and the SENCO over the past few weeks, regarding his anxiety levels and the fact that he is a victim of bullying on a daily basis. While they have worked very hard to address the problems and between us we have come up with a really good (although yet to see if it will work) strategy for next year, along with a much better teacher (well couldn't get much worse than this year's tbh) I feel that his report is not a true representation of his year at school. Even the Head's comment fails to recognise how much adversity he has had to overcome this year.

I will definitely be filling in the parent's comment sheet and pointing out how he has achieved the good results mentioned in the report despite all that he has been through. I think I will also say something along the lines that, whilst he has achieved well academically, his overall experience of school this year was one of anxiety and distress and we hope to continue to work 'closely' with the school to ensure this experience in not repeated next year.

Other than that the teacher managed to say his handwriting, spacing and presentation issues have improved - despite her saying the exact opposite at his IEP review a fortnight ago and the fact that she knows that we know this simply isn't the case. She also reported all the things he does well in PE, which I was extremely surprised at, as not only did she tell us at the same review meeting that he struggles a lot in PE and she feels we are right to suspect dyspraxia, but most of the things she lists are things he has never been able to do and still can't do at home.