What can I do about my daughter peeing everywhere ??

[mummyloveslucy]

And don't say a pull-up.

She used to be potty trained very well, but over the last year she's gone down hill big time. At school she has 1-2 accidents a day on average, but at home it's much more. I do keep reminding her but it dosn't seem to make any difference.
I'm concerned that my house is going to start to smell like a toilet. I've put a waterproof sheet under the throw on the sofa where she sits, but today she sat in my chair and did it.
Is there anything discrete I could use on all the chairs ? Then there's the carpet of corse. We are using Febreze at the moment, is there anything better we could try ?
It would be so much easier to put her in pull-ups at home, but she'll just wee in them and won't even try to get to the toilet. I don't want her to loose the control she has, which I'd say was about 50%. If anyone has any tips I'd be greatful. Thanks.

can she actually control it or not?
because why she is doing it might affect how you need to handle it
if she definitely can control what she is doing and is choosing not to go then have you tried star charts and things?

Oh yes. We've tried everything. She says "I didn't know it was comming". Sometimes she suddenly stops and say " Oh, my wee is here", as it's trickling down her leg.
There is more pressure at school, not to do it in front of her friends, but she'll often do it in the play ground and not tell anyone. Then she'll sit around in wet knickers for the rest of the day.

oh bless her
has she been checked by GP etc to make sure there is no physical reason for it?

I did take her but he just put it down to her SEN's. I phoned the health visitor and she sugested re trying the Movicol as she also messes herself frequently and they think it might be constipation.
When ever she has the movicol though, she has the runs for days after and that's not good at school. Every holiday, we experiment with the dose. She ends up having the runs for most of the holiday, then we have to give it up when she's back to school.

Can you take her to the toilet every hour or so rather than reminding her or waiting for her to ask?

I've tried that too. Sometimes she'll go, but other times she won't and then she'll wet herself 20 mins later. It does help though.

I think I'd tighten up on that a bit if it helps a little. If she gets used to a routine of it every 45 mins she will hopefully evetually start to remember for herself over time. Does she have a support assistant who can do the same thing at school? I'd consider some kind of fabric training pants for school too, just to contain things a bit.

if it is her SN then tbh maybe pull-ups IS the way to go until she can reliably use the toilet herself?

i do understand why you don't want to, but if she genuinely is having trouble knowing when to go then all you're really doing is making more work for yourself
also, sometimes I thnk when the pressure is off they're more liekly to do what you want!

thisisyesterday speaks sense imo. i know it may seem like you are going backwards but for the time being it would help realistically and practically.

My dd had an emotional setback 2 yrs ago and regressed for some months at age 6, and she started to wet herself. Like your dd she didn't even realise she needed one. I made sure the school asked her or at least reminded her togo to the loo every 1/2 hour or so. She still had accidents, but she managed to get some wee into the loo over the course of a day.

Eventually she began to improve, but that was with a reward chart. It wasmy last resort, as when she had originally been potty trained at 2/3 she hadn't needed one!!!

actually, although they're expensive motherease do re-usable bedwetter pants. they'll hold a whole wee, so maybe better than training pants, but because they're cloth they're more like proper knickers
i'll see if i can find a link in a mo

motherease pants

Thank you, the motherease pants would be a good idea but she is very big for her age. She is only 5.5, but she's in age 7 clothes.