Hi lou031205, the nursery is great with my ds they take care of all his medical needs. they medicate him, catter for his diet, keep note of what he's eating, drinking. ensure he double voids when he goes to the toilet remind him to go, as he is not always aware he needs to wee and change him when he leeks. they have more teachers in the setting so they are able to do this, he gets one on one time with teachers and small groups to do work as he finds that easier to cope as he has trouble understanding instructions and getting his point across he prefers physical play to verbal so they have a hard time getting him to take part, they also and i admitt i do to have a hard time getting him to stay still. his point of contact with the specialist teaching service feels this is because he is constantly trying to escape any discomfort he feels. if only i could keep him there.
the concern for both my self and the nursery is that when i spoke to the school they seemed to be being overly difficult they would not refill his juice as he can not drink plain water i would have to send him to school with the 2500 ish mls he drinks a day as well as a packed lunch as they can not monitor what he eats (what if he nicks food from another child) he's medicine would have to be taken in daily already drawn in the syringe(which will leek). they will not push him to go to the toilet (i have visions of him in wet clothes all day). i think mostly they (his, nursery, potential school, specialist teaching service, hospital,)want one to ensure his physical needs are met and they have the resources to do this.
as for his educational needs he will miss a lot of school, he has language difficultys and he is complettly on his own agenda (this i think is they nursery's bigest proplem because if he is not interested he'll go do his own thing)i would also say he is generally behind the other children. but i admit i don't (from my point of view) know if i would say he has educationl needs but can see how they would have issues with him in a group setting, but these are things i dont have at home, as its just us i can ignore him and persit in getting him to do what i want him to do.
maybe i just don't see it, maybe i should have a talk to the nursery, i just want to feel he is safe at school, maybe this statment won't do that if it won't cover his pysical needs.
sorry it's such a long one, but i'm starting to feel very lost with it all.