Hi
We have 4 lovely kids who I love equally. When for 1st ds was 3 he was diagnosed with autism, we happily sent him to the local special school and busied having our other children. Then ds1 needed to move schools to cut long story short we felt he needed small classes so we sent him privately. We explained to our other kids whey ds1 was going there and all was well. My MIL offered to pay so we took the offer up so that the rest of the kids didn't suffer finacialy as it would have been a struggle. However recently 1 of our kids is struggling at school and the other one has become more vocal about the fact that ds 1 gets everything. I feel so guilty and now dh wants to keep ds1 private for secondary for the same reasons. MY MIL and dh's aunt are all happy to help ds1 I am the only one who is worried what this will do to my other children. Poor dd1 has always felt she missed out even though we pay for her to do other things. They all have their own rooms. They rarely go without. I tried working but with 4 kids it was all to much to support them. I know we can't do it all for them, I am so racked with guilt why no one has offered to help them? DS1 has always been grannys favourite it has been obvious from the begining, they have no understanding of the wedge they are putting between my kids.
My question is am I going to have to live with this or look a gift horse in the mouth to keep my other kids happy for their brothers sake. Has any one experiened this sort of problem? I can see that ds1 would really benifit but poor dd1 's behaviour is so aweful over this. Because he is special isn't good enough for her any more.