Hello Ladies,
I have had some wonderful advice here lately and wonder if you could advise some more?
To cut a very long story short;
DS is more than likely adhd, he has been diagnosed at age 4 with ODD and PDD, he will be 7 in July.
We've been waiting almost a year since he has been referred to CAMHS for a proper assessment. Last week, both the school and I received the Connors Scale Questionnaires so I assume an appointment is imminent.
He currently has one to one time on a Tuesday afternoon for an hour with the early intervention team, who work with him on his "stage 3" plan. This involves targets such as learning to take turns and working on his social skills (which are few and far between).
I've been in and out the school over the past two weeks for various problems and tonight was parents night. It was horrendous .
His teacher tells me that he is virtually unteachable in a classroom environment. He CANNOT sit on his bum, he cannot concentrate at all and is very very difficult. I thought he was getting a bit better, but he's not, he's getting worse.
I have a meeting tomorrow night with the early intervention support teacher to discuss his progress with her. From what his class teacher told me tonight his targets with her remain the same as he has not met any of them.
He's extremely clever, so thankfully is meeting his milestones in class, despite never listening, he always knows the answers. (I'm sure many of you adhd mums recognise this).
He is also completely out of control in an unstructured environment, i.e. P.E. She says the PE teacher just cannot cope with him and he basically spends the whole time running up and down the hall, he does not join in any of the activities and none of the tactics they've implemented get him to join in either. For the rest of the day he is a nightmare because he's totally wired.
I don't know what else to do. I feel I need to say to them tomorrow that what they are doing isn't working. The system is failing him completely at the moment. He's beenin the system since he was 3 and we still don't have any proper support or a diagnosis in place.
I believe I am entitled to request that an assessment for a "statement of needs, record of needs or an IEP" is done, is that correct? (We're in Scotland btw). I've mentioned this before to the HT and her answer was basically, no you don't need to do that, we have lots in place for him. I don't think there is.
Teacher tells me on a one to one basis he is wonderful, but I think he needs more support. I think he needs to be worked with in class on a more one to one basis. The answer I think really is that he does need to be medicated to help him stay still and focus.
Can any of you advise me what to do next. What to suggest tomorrow night? I'm not sure what my rights are with regards to him and I don't have time to be able to research properly before tomorrow.
His teacher totally agrees that he can't help himself, its the way he is and that quite a lot of the time he lives in a wee world of his own. I'm so glad that she can see this too.
I suspect that the HT thinks he is "just a pain in the arse" who will grow out of it. But we all know better.
Thank you in advance for all the wonderful advice I know you are about to give me!!! .
In the meantime, I'll way google and see what I can find. There is also some more information in this recent thread here.