I'm hoping anyone with experience of the school system might be able to share some advice on the pros and cons of pursuing an autism assessment/diagnosis for a pre-school aged child.
My son is 3 and attends a lovely pre-school nursery four mornings a week. They've put various strategies and support in place, which have helped him thrive.
I’ve always had a question mark over autism and recently discussed this with his key worker, asking whether they felt a referral for assessment would be appropriate. They've already been liaising with the school SENCO to support him, and his key worker was incredibly kind and supportive. She said that many of his behaviours, sensory needs and social/emotional difficulties would fit an autistic profile (although obviously not her place to diagnose), and that if we wanted to make a referral, they would fully support us.
At the same time, she was careful not to push us either way, and encouraged us to think carefully about pursuing a formal diagnosis at this age. At his current pre-school (attached to a private school), a diagnosis wouldn't change the support he receives. They're already supporting him as an individual with a broadly autistic profile, so in practical terms, nothing would really change for now.
However, we'll move schools for Reception in September 2027, as we won’t be able to afford private fees. This is where I’m unsure. In your experience, would a diagnosis limit the schools he's able to apply to locally? We had hoped for a lovely one, just round the courner from our house. On the other hand, if he doesn't have anything formal in place, how does that work when starting school, especially if support is needed?
I'd perhaps naively assumed that receiving a diagnosis would only be helpful, but I’m now wondering whether there are any downsides I haven’t understood - and don't want to rush into anything. I’d really like to understand the realities of the school system, admissions, support, SENCO involvement and any implications I hadn't considered.
For background: his support needs are comparatively low, and would be going into a mainstream setting. But he does struggle with sensory, transitions, unexpected changes, emotional regulation and aspects of social interaction etc.etc. I'm currently unsure whether school "proper" will be OK for him (a lot can change in a year!), or a real challenge.
Thank you so much - any experiences/thoughts/questions welcome :)