School are getting Ed psych to assess 6 year old

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Unsure how to tackle this or what to do next.
Preschool gave terrible handover to reception before our son started school suggested Sen needs which was the first we'd heard of this. since reception son has had a sen support plan mostly due to emotional regulation and now in year 1 still in place listed as having SEMH and more targets added to this sen support plan. He struggles with Emotional regulation not any mental health. But we are seeing more of this behaviour stomping his feet/ even throwing himself on the floor in the past, not wanting to do any tasks at home or at school, getting up and dressed is a struggle (easily distracted messing around), can't sit still at the table to eat any meals, requires constant prompts He reminds me of a moody teenager anytime he's asked to do something he doesn't want to do, he is a sore loser in races/games, gets upset if his peers won something and he didn't/someone is picked to do something before he is (e.g. opening the advent calendar each day in class).
Any opinions on this behaviour?
He has pastoral support at school , he's a very bright child academically on target in most areas he just seems very immature compared to his age mates and these 'tantrums' are an issue.
School are now going to get an Ed Psych to assess is there anything I should do/ any tips any suggestions what this behaviour could be linked too.
I'm guessing they are suggesting ADHD without explicitly saying It? Do we go with the school or should we be doing more in totally lost.

To add he has no need we are aware of other than what school are suggesting. He is fully functioning and able, can eat, dress himself, shower, brush teeth read and writes very well , knowledgeable retains information well.
I just don't understand this behaviour,,- you can't refuse work at school simply because you don't want to do it.

They night not be thinking of a particular diagnosis. An ed psych assessment is to understand the child more. The ed psych should meet with you as well, and if you are concerned about ADHD, you could mention it. They wouldn't be able to diagnose but would be able to give an indication of whether a referral for assessment woul be reasonable (though few places would accept a referral until he is 7). The bigger thing the ed psych will do is recommend strategies to support him.

I'm guessing they are struggling to support him and manage behaviour in school, and are not looking at specific diagnosis at this point.

It is brilliant the school is on the ball with seeking EP advice.

For the EP assessment, it can be helpful to make a timeline of events/any previous assessments etc. Also think about making notes on things like developmental history, needs/difficulties, likes/dislikes/what makes DS happy, what support is already in place, what has previously been tried, what worked/didn’t work, what is needed but unable to be delivered, what is important to DS/you and what is important for DS, how DS communicates/how others communicate with him, aspirations, what you think DS needs, a bit about family/any other important people in DS’s life.

It can also help to write a list of questions to ask the EP such as what assessments will be undertaken, what observations will be done (e.g. structured and unstructured times, with peers, with adults), will they meet with DS 1:1, how long they will spend with DS. Ask if the EP will make recommendations for the need for further assessments such as OT where they believe they are necessary - sometimes they do and sometimes they don’t.

What support is the school already providing? What have they tried that hasn’t worked?

Have you tried some PDA techniques?

Has DS had a sensory OT assessment?

The EP won’t diagnose ADHD.

Thank you for your input helpful information, and some good suggestions, I will write a list of questions and reach out to the school this week. I know they cannot diagnose, school have sent many links to ADHD support, right to choose etc..
He hasn't had any input other than pastoral I will research PDA techniques although he has responded much better this week most likely when we are less stressed obviously he is a lot more willing to do things when asked, also me and him have had more 1 on 1 time which he loves. Hard with a toddler in the mix also.

He sounds very much like my son.

The EP gave some great suggestions to school to help. For example a movement break.
I found it really useful to hear their thoughts.

School aren’t able to say we think ADHD without you saying it first. Well that’s the case at my school anyway.