I literally cannot live my nearly 17 year old daughter anymore. She literally brings nothing positive to our home….. she is disgustingly rude, her room is vile, she doesn’t do a thing to clear up behind herself, she is so unhygienic, she does what she wants when she wants, argues with everything we say, takes everyone’s stuff literally nothing is your own, shouts and screams and slams the door in our faces whenever we try and talk to her…..the list is endless and I’m honestly depressed.
I am trying so hard to enforce natural consequences to try and teach her. For example, we have other children and I say I will give a lift to school but I leave at X time so if you miss the lift, you’re walking (it’s not far) she will take a year doing her make up and watching TikTok and miss the lift despite constant count down reminders. She then will just ring grandparents and they come and get her which is really not helpful and she knows someone will always run around after her and says that to me. I am now constantly falling out with my own parents over her and it just made feels like I am being battered daily from every angle. I even sit in random places in my car waiting for her to go out before I go home as I can’t face her!
I don’t know how to deal with her and what is the right/ wrong way!