ADHD assessment

[Sux2buthen]

This week my daughters both have adhd assessments via teams calls.
This has been a long time in the making and has taken six attempts to get accepted.
They are 9 and 7. I am so nervous for them to get what they need and terrified they won’t show their true selves on the day in the call.
I don’t know what to expect on the day. My 9 year old knows, I haven’t yet told my 7 year old and I don’t know if I should. Or when to.
I won’t list the many reasons I have for trying to get their diagnoses, but I will say I am trying because their lives are negatively affected by the symptoms even with the buckets of support I gave them and the support I have received from school. I work in school with SEND and have some tools that have helped a bit.
Does anyone have any experience or advice in this scenario please?

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The process varies depending on the provider. There may be questionnaires to complete, they will be observing DDs, there may be some tasks for DDs to complete. There will be questions for both you and DDs on daily life - difficulties, strengths, support, etc. They may want to go through the history - e.g. developmental, educational, family history.

Personally, I would tell DD2.

The SEN and SN boards are quieter. Replies take longer, but you don’t get some of the types of responses you sometimes get on the main boards.

Thankyou for replying.
I will tell her I just don’t want to cause her anxiousness beyond what she already has until the right moment. She’s unpredictable 😂
Thankyou that’s reassuring

Can you ask the assessor to provide a short letter of introduction so that both of them know a bit more about the process (in child friendly terms) before going into it? That might help a bit.

I’ve introduced the idea now in a low key way and I’ll be having small conversations before the day at the right moments. I’m reading as much as I can about what will happen on the call but not giving too much info for the kids because I don’t want to put any expectations on them and give a false impression.
while also wanting to actually get somewhere, it’s quite tricky!

getting extremely anxious now. I’m so worried they won’t see the girls how they really are especially my little masker. We’ve waited so long to come this far