We are the C in PW&C! She is ok, but I just find her a bit wet. I have heard on the grapevine that she is moving on.
Yes, we have the pleasure of RN, and we do have trouble there as dd1 is not particularly enamoured, and so it is hard to keep her even in the same room sometimes!
ABA is a type of behavioural intervention used mainly with ASD, but tbh it benefits dd2 just as much. we basically have to teach dd1 everyhting slowly and surely (am sure you are no stranger to this) and so in a nutshell it is a teaching method - more here - this is the clinic we use. We are currently working on dd1's matching and discrimination skills, along with motor imitation.
Tbh, it's not rocket science, and is an extension of normal (to me) parenting boundaries and methods, but by using a consultant,we have a framework to work to, rather than the haphazard methods i was using...
The problems we have with it are that AE, RN, and most others (Portage for eg) are fairly anti-ABA, as they still think of it as it was back in the '60s - a fairly harsh, rigid, method rather than the extension of play approach we are taking. they are convinced it will not be compatible with any of their methods. Since their methods are not working, i'm not sure that this incompatibility will be hugely detrimental! And within a week, dd1 has gone from lots of inappropriately used learnt phrases (eg "would you like a drink" when she is thirsty) to saying "mummy, I'd like a drink". Seems to work for us, then!
RN commented last week that she'd never seen dd1 so calm, and on task...
I can't see dh taking kindly to meetings like the ones you describe! Still, I'm sure we are fairly well known there already for complaining (which is why we have the pleasure of RN as SALT when dd1 doesn't even attend there yet - we complained that she was not getting any SALT)
I'm not sure what the suggestion re reception/year 1 is. Not sure that they know. dd1 is Aug 8th birthday, so technically if she does not go this academic year then she will go into year 1, but if she goes to the unit then there aren't really any proper class distinctions, it would just be clarified for school transition ages. If your ds is held back currently, has KCC agreed to keep him held back? As I understood that when it came to secondary transition KCC were buggers for then getting you to make up the year differnce, and so you ds would have to skip a year? That's what I was told re dd1 anyway. So any benefits gained would be lost (and then some).