I'm not really sure why I'm posting this but think I just need a little outlet.
Ds (7) has had his qb check and assessment today and been diagnosed withoderate-severe combined ADHD. The clinician also suggested that he may meet ASD diagnostic criteria.
Looking back, I've been questioning neuro divergence since he was about 2 and we were fully expecting an ADHD diagnosis today. I'm a little taken back by the moderate-severe I think but he has really been struggling in school and at least we should have no issues in trialling medication (school have been really supportive and I'm happy that we have tried enough to justify meds trial based on improving his daily experience).
DH and I have always said ds has ASD traits but I'm not convinced re criteria for a diagnosis, none the less we will ask for a referral and remain open minded.
I suppose I'm looking for a bit of reassurance. Ds is incredibly bright and creative and amazing, and he just wants to grow up to have a good job a wife and 4 (!) kids and I really really want him to be able to achieve that and anything else he wants to in life. I know people with ADHD or AuDHD are able to live wonderful, fulfilling and interesting lives (in fact, I have recognised many ADHD traits in myself as we've gone through the process) but still I worry
DH and I will of course offer and access as much support as we can and that he needs l, and I know it will help for him to understand why his brain works the way it does when he's older, I just feel a bit sad as obviously there will be additional struggles for him and noone would choose a harder life for their kids given the option.
Typing that out helped a bit!