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Should I get my child evaluated

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kateypops · 27/12/2025 20:34

So my parents came today and all they did instead of enjoying hes company was check if he did this or that etc like pointing or responding to noises when hes really interested in what hes doing. And before they came I was aware that he doesnt respond to hes name or point yet but it didnt worry me as hes ahead in so many other areas and heard other moms saying dont stress on milestones but now because my parents spent the whole trip trying to evaluate him I'm scared that I previpusly wasnt worried enough? Or is it that my parents have worried me into a milestone spiral now?

So my baby is 14 months old, turning 15 next week. He can say 11 words, although hes favourite word and that he says Alot is ball but he LOVESSS balls and cars and books but he loves passing balls to others and throwing balls and walking with them etc.

So I'm like okay he repeats ball alot ( he learnt it when he was 12 months) he says dada but he relates it to male figurines. He used say mama but he never said mama or dada to us. He has good eye contact and he will come up to people, loves social smiling, clapping and he waves hi and bye sometimes. He stacks 4 blocks, he says vroom vroom, cah for car, duh for dog, bowl(but he thinks anything that has a concave like a cup is a bowl), hi(sometimes), bye (sometimes), boo for book, bubu for bubbles.

He points at pictures in books and looks at me to say the word but doesnt point in real life but neither do me or my partner. he does not respond to hes name but we do have a million nicknames for him. He plays peekaboo and has since like 6 months old, he puts hes hands up to be picked up. He understands "put it in" "take it out" and "come here".

He crawled at 5 months, walked at 12(but they suspect bilateral hip dysplasia) he runs, can walk backwards, climbs stairs up and down.

He can play independently but if he wants us he brings us the toy hes playing with so we play with him.

Ya I guess I just want some reassurance that my parents were focusing too much on milestones. Or am I being in denial about my son and he needs to be assessed? I guess I'd like to know too so I can get him checked. Health visitor saw him at 12 months and was happy, only thing she wanted us to watch was not responding to hes name. We wont be seeing hv until 2 years now but said to bring him in if we have any worries. Like I know he doesnt respond to hes name and he doesnt point but he does so many other things, does that not account for anything? Also he says a few words but sometimes he wont say the words specifically when theirs other people around, is that normal? Like he will say ball because I feel like he feels like he mastered the word but he wont say vroom vroom or cah for car or duh for dog with people around does that still count as words for him if he doesnt say it around others yet? 🙃

Kind regards, a spiraling ftm 🙃🥴

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24Dogcuddler · 28/12/2025 08:52

Sounds like your parents have started you worrying. They could be playing with him and enjoying him instead of trying to look for difficulties. If the Health Visitor was happy just 2 months ago I wouldn’t be concerned. He sounds fine

You do need to choose a consistent name to call him as he’s probably confused by all the nicknames. Either use his full name or a shortened version, stick to it and ask others to do the same.

I’d use his interest in balls to play basic to and fro rolling you can reinforce names here too Mummy’s turn, X’s turn. You could do ready steady go games with balls and ramps or a rollerball toy.
I wouldn’t be expecting much independent play at this age as his attention span will be short.
Just enjoy him and reinforce to Grandparents that HV is happy with his development.

2x4greenbrick · 28/12/2025 11:19

I wouldn’t be worried. I too would be consistent with what you/others call DS. You could always model pointing, too. But if you are concerned, speak to the HV. The Ages and Stages Questionnaires might reassure you.

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