Exactly this really. DS 10 finally went through the process last term for an ADHD diagnosis. After meetings with the phycologist and forms filled in from the school CAHMS said that he was 1 point off with the school saying he had no behaviour which impacted his education in the survey. I was dumbstruck, the head dumbstruck said she's never known a child that screamed ADHD like my son does, turns out a teacher that taught him for 2 weeks while his was sick filled the form in. After a meeting with the SENCO who was also dumbstruck I made my peace with this after being reassured a diagnosis would make no difference to their support of him and transition to comprehensive school.
Fast forward to tonight's SEN meeting with his new yr 6 teacher. I could vomit I'm so upset. Basically he said he's failing at everything and "will not do well at secondary if his handwriting and ability to concentrate in class don't drastically improve" the polar opposite to last year's teacher who said he was working within age targets, when I asked how he could suddenly of gotten so much worse they implied the summer holidays were to blame?! His teacher suggested extra handwriting sessions, which I pointed out he's already supposed to be getting. Non of the techniques to assist in shouting out and fidgeting are being used either, his teacher hasn't even read his previous SEN plan. I really feel panicked about this, I feel the school have dropped him like a hot potato and I'm worried about his future. So to the original question can I appeal the diagnosis or is this it now?!