Teen hormones and autism

[BobnBrenda]

This isn't anything specific, just looking for others going through the same. When hormones and autism collide, it feels as life seems to have got extremely tough. We went through the whole school drama, finally got him the help he needed, and life seemed so much better. But then, teens hit. Girls are the new special interest but he always gets it wrong. He's constantly getting booted out of WhatsApp groups, I've had the odd phone call from angry mums because he's got it wrong with their daughters. He doesn't really have any pals, but is desperate for them, so all he does is stay at home on his computer. I'm exhausted coming up with ideas to get him out the house - joining clubs, youth clubs, school things - and it never goes well. It's so hard to see your child all pale from never going outside, and not ever being invited to anything. I had really good news today about something else, and it's hardly touched the sides, because I feel so exhausted by parenting an autistic teen. I should be cracking open the champagne but instead I'm on the brink of tears. Just looking for others in a similar situation. Or anyone out the other side - please tell me it all gets better when they hit 16.

Sending solidarity, hugs and congratulations on your good news!
I feel like I am slowly losing my mind in a similar situation. It's so hard to deal with all the restrictions and having to constantly micromanage everything. I often remind myself things could be a lot worse and that other parents are dealing with even more challenging issues with their teens but sometimes I just want to scream! Like you I'm hoping that when we get to 16 a bit of extra maturity will make a big difference. I've been dealing with school refusal for more than a year now and am out of ideas. Try to squeeze some self care in where you can and some goals for yourself that are separate that really is the best thing we can do in my experience.

ps. I went for a massage I couldn't really afford today as I was totally stressed out and exhausted and feel 100 times better for it so would recommend something like that if possible?

Thank you for your message. And yes, as you say, it could be a whole lot worse. I'm dealing with quirky and stubborn rather than out and out violent/hostile/totally off the rails. It's such a bloomin' rollercoaster though. I love him to bits but also sometimes wish he/my life was different.
Massage sounds like a top idea! Glad it helped....I'm quite partial to a hammam. I might try that