Am I seeing things through rose tinted glasses?

[Earlybirdcatchesworms]

My toddler (29 months) is delayed, no speech, under physio (delay can't jump, curly toes etc) been under paediatrics since birth (initially thought a genetic disease and no cognitive ability)

They now after ruling out physical conditions looking into Autism.

But am I mad? I see her as really smart.
She has worked out all safety equipment (locks, gates) she's a houdini. Can get out of anything. Will pretend she cant then when you turn your back she's broke the lock or found a hack to get around it and get out. She's locked me out the house when I stepped out to grab post, by finding the door key, getting it in lock then turning it..luckily I could climb through the window. (Obviously put in extra measures now to prevent this repeat 😅)

Surely that's not a cognitive problem? Surely if she couldn't learn or keep up mentally with other kids she couldn't do that?

Are they underestimating her? Or as a mum am I seeing things through the love and hope glasses?

I do tell her team, but i dont think they believe it..it is caught on nanny cam so could show them videos??

I just want to make sure im grounded in reality and not seeing things that aren't there.

What DD can do doesn’t rule out autism. Some autistic people are cognitively able. And some with a co-morbid learning disability can still problem solve to escape locks etc.

Autistic people can be really intelligent.
Even autistic people with a learning disability may have specific ways in which they are highly intelligent.

I mean to say this kindly, yes I think you could be. A spiky profile is incredibly common with autism. my son is 4 and doesn't speak to communicate even with any simple words but he can recite the alphabet and solves some particular problems well. Our area is rubbish waits for learning disability assessments but been told he could have at least a moderate learning disability at this point and is starting a school for children with general learning disabilities soon.