Wholly independent schools can’t be named in EHCPs, even via appeal, unless they offer a place. If you wanted, you could approach the school to explain them EHCP is out of date, provide an accurate picture and any up to date evidence you have and ask if they will reconsider. It may not work, but if you wanted the school, it is worth a try.
You can make subject access requests to the LA and school to get the information that was shared between them.
Do you have the right of appeal currently?
Out of date information doesn’t need to be left in.
The LA can’t compel you to facilitate the alternative provision. Whether that is online or in person. The LA is responsible. Email the LA about this. Depending on how part-time DS is attending school, one morning a week AP may not be sufficient either.
How is DS during the time he is in school?
There are lots of factors that are considered when looking at if it is inappropriate for provision to be made in a school. It depends on the individual circumstances. It isn’t just if a school can make the provision in F, but if making the provision in a school would not be suitable or would not be proper. It isn’t enough to look at if it is inappropriate for the provision to be made in just one school (or even 2 schools) - although his doesn’t mean the LA has to consult all or any schools in order to be able to prove that it is inappropriate. A suitable school hundreds of miles away wouldn’t necessarily mean it was appropriate for provision to be made in a school - it would sometimes be appropriate and sometimes inappropriate (e.g. some DC have residential placements because of the distance, but that isn’t appropriate for all).
There is a lot of case law on this that you might find helpful to read.
For example, TM v Hounslow [2009] EWCA Civ 859* *says individual circumstances need considering and part of that includes looking at:
“i. the child’s background and medical history;
ii. the particular educational needs of the child;
iii. the facilities that can be provided by a school;
iv. the facilities that could be provided other than in a school;
v. the comparative cost of the possible alternatives to the child’s educational provisions, either at school or elsewhere;
vi. the parents’ wishes (although they are not generally determinative); and
vii. any other particular circumstances that apply to a particular child”
NN v Cheshire East Council (SEN) [2021] UKUT 220 (AAC) confirms this. It will also help to read M v Hertfordshire CC [2019] UKUT 37 (AAC), Derbyshire CC v EM and DM [2019] UKUT 240 (AAC) and AA & BB v Bristol City Council [2023] UKUT 52 (AAC).
An imaginary school being suitable doesn’t mean it isn’t inappropriate for provision to be made in a school. I have 2 DSs with EOTAS/EOTIS. One would be fine in an imaginary school - a school with no other pupils, taught only certain subjects to a high academic level in certain ways with lots of sensory input, lots of exercise/sport, multiple therapies, sensory friendly building… you get the idea. It is an imaginary school he drew/annotated for the EP, but it is never going to be real so the imaginary school doesn’t mean it isn’t inappropriate for provision to be made in a school for him.