Sorry if I posted this in the wrong place.
Since my DD was a toddler she has been extremely defiant and had major temper tantrums way beyond what most would deem ‘normal’.
School was always a non issue until she hit Secondary School. Since then it’s been horrific really. I have read about girls ‘masking’ and the ‘coke bottle effect’ which is exactly what my experience was. She would literally explode the second we got home from school.
We found out she was self-harming at age 11. We did take her to counselling but I don’t think this particularly helped her. She hasn’t self harmed for a good few months now but I am well aware the urge to do it may come back again.
We have been hauled up at the school multiple times as DD is consistently being disruptive, argumentative and defiant in class. This has been escalating ever since she started. She has been threatened with expulsion.
The more I read the more I think DD has ODD. She is on the waiting list for ADHD assessment but this may take another couple of years.
This really isn’t just normal teenage stroppy behaviour. It’s disrupting all of our lives at home and making everyone miserable as it just feels so toxic.
I guess I am asking if you had an ODD child what worked for you? I am looking at counselling.