What is a SEN support Plan (Reception)so confused

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And we are continuously asking school why is our son on it?
Due to moving house DS1 changed pre school-was a rubbish place, didn't want to keep changing schools again. They didn't treat him that well so regret him going there, bad experience 😞 .before starting reception they told new school that our son had SEN, news to us and apparently were treating him so throughout pre school.without mentioning anything or doing anything to support if he did have needs. He was often left out of a lot of stuff/activities. School have said they'd treat him as any other new student but I feel they've already got this in their minds. Day one we were met by the senco spouting all this stuff we had no clue about it completely ruined the whole starting school experience because they got it all wrong. And after Months he had a SEN support plan for emotional regulation. school say they haven't identified any difficulties as he's very able highest set in reading knows all his phonics , writing is good,maths is good, they feel he'll likely grow out of these things such as turn taking but yet have carried on with this plan! I feel in person they say all the right things no concerns then another letter comes saying the plan will continue and I feel they are just carrying on with it behind our backs.

What is the proper process here am I missing something?

To add I work in sen support for a college so I understand some things but not in early years. Alot of the college students have diagnosis, it was apparent from birth or very early on which we don't see with our son. His fine motor skills are a bit weak so handwriting can be a bit large but he can read, spell, do maths, write and tell stories very able/ independent makes his own breakfast, has friends ..don't get it!

I don't know what to do. The teacher who is head of year said they do not suspect he has any difficulties yet another plan with more targets added has been issued. Things that alot of children aged 4 do, reminders for sharing/turn taking, can rush their work because he wants to play and keeping focused for longer and recently added one about social skills. he has loads of friends at school and cousins around him outside of school, well liked, very chatty and that's never been an issue about his social skills. I feel they are just adding anything now

A SEN Support plan is a document that sets out the area(s) a pupil needs support in, what support they need, what the support hopes to achieve, how progress will be monitored. Some schools include strengths too. However, you should be involved in the assess, plan, do, review process. If you aren’t being included, request a meeting with the SENCO.

SEN support is about far more than academic ability. It can cover things like emotional regulation, social interaction (social skills is about more than whether someone has friends, is liked and is chatty), motor skills. If DS is needing support with those, it is correct he has a SEN Support plan. A diagnosis isn’t required, and it doesn’t just cover disabilities that are obvious at birth/very young.

You haven't actually articulated any way in which the new school is doing anything to your son's detriment. In fact, it seems like they're tracking his progress closely, which is a positive - he's not falling through the cracks. You actually sound a bit hysterical and like one of those people who refuses to hear what people tell you and are perhaps worked up at the idea that anyone has dared "label" your son. I may have got it wrong, but that's how your post comes across. I'd suggest you have a think about why you are so upset about your son's progress being followed closely by qualified teachers.