feel guilty that we don't go out with others much

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started home educating six months ago and dd is so much happier and calmer for it. asd and adhd under diagnosis at the moment.

we do a few home ed groups but dd doesn't socialise with anyone there, just does the activity and keeps herself to herself. same with the after school clubs she still does. there's one where it's a very small group and so she does socialise and that's lovely, but it's only an hour each week.

we've had a few playdates but they turned explosive.

i feel so guilty that i'm not arranging playdates any more, but she's just so much happier without having to figure out socialising. she had a lovely little bunch of friends when she was at school and was very well liked, but she couldn't cope, and i'm not friends with the mums so we don't see them, and i know people are busy after school and weekends.

we do have a lovely time, we go out somewhere every day together, if i can, and do such a variety of activities, but i feel terrible that i'm not building her a social group.

she's six btw.

Easier said than done but I wouldn’t worry too much. It is still early days.

Is there a way of capitalising on the socialising DD manages at the small group? Could you look at other small groups? Or other groups some of the DC in those groups go to? Or have you tried a playdate (perhaps with an org aside activity DC can do in parallel to begin with) or meeting up with 1 or more of those in the small group DD socialises with?

If DD wants to, I think it would still be OK for you to reach out to some of the old school friends.

Is DD receiving any support with social communication and interaction? (And possibly anxiety from your OP?)