Daughter, age 11 in Year 6. Has struggled with school since Year 5. Gradual decline in attendance until beginning of Year 6 and now total school 'refusal' or EBSA. Main issues are anxiety, sensory problems and what I think is autistic burnout. Waiting for autism assessment, waiting for CAMHs appointment. Council have refused an EHCP which we are in the middle of appealing.
Asked for Ed psych. assessment from school. Senco said they didn't do them anymore. Checked school policy and this contradicted what she said. Pointed this out and they said they had to ask the CEO for clarification and would get back to us. Taking too long so we chased the CEO ourselves. Letter back saying she must consistently attend and then they might consider a referral. She is unable to attend due to her mental ill health. We have now had to pay for our own appointment.
Got GP to write to school how she was struggling to try and authorise her absences. School and council working together want to challenge this and ask how the doctor reached his diagnosis and what his plan was to get her back to school. I said they could write to the doctor but was unhappy that they were more concerned with attendance than her mental ill health and anxiety.
Have been asking senco to do the new neuroprofiling tool. Asked in January this year. She said originally it wasn't worth doing. Then when i persisted she said to try other professionals as it might be quicker. They all signposted me back to school and first available appointment not till 31st March. She was sick on the day, apologised and simply sent me the form to fill in. Arranged another meeting for 2 weeks after Easter. So another delay of 1 month. Turns out that once this form is completed and a plan formulated there is a monitoring period of 12 weeks. She doesn't have that long left at the school! Summer term only 9 and a half weeks. And if all I had to do was fill in the stupid form, she could have sent it to me months ago.
We have put in SARs request which should come back in 2 weeks.
Feel very fobbed off. They have delayed, ignored emails, put extra conditions on their school policy's and come up with unworkable re-engagement plans. So should we complain? If so about what and what resolution would we want?
No-one at the school is taking her issues seriously. My daughter is unable to leave the house, rarely comes out of her room, can not engage with her family and is completely shut down. She is a flight risk and we have to keep doors locked and check on her at night as she has previously left the house at night. She is a shell of her former happy and bubbly self but all that seems to matter to the school is that we get her attendance up. So angry and worn out.
Any ideas or help very much appreciated. Sorry so long.
Worried in Cornwall