Had enough

[Plantkiller44]

Hi as per the tittle. I’m just done with being a mum. 3 children (25/22/11 eldest and youngest = ASD/ADHD/PDA/ARFID) I’m just sick of it. I’m a lone parent work full time, eldest lives in supported but the youngest is hooked on screens. I can’t get him to do anything probably due to anxiety. I’ve just had a melt down about everything. He has no contact with his dad, my mum is unintentionally toxic and not very good with him. I know I’m not alone in this and others have it tougher but I’m just tired there’s no point to this thread other than to vent

Have you had social care assessments? A carer’s assessment for you and an assessment by the children with disability team for DC3.

Does DC3 have an EHCP? What support is DC3 receiving? Is he on medication?

Hi thanks for replying. Yes he has an EHCP, but we’re not under social services. I get DLA but it doesn’t go far. X

You can request social care assessments. On their website, Contact has model letters you can use. Also look at your local short breaks offer.

What support, included therapies, are in the EHCP?

Please don't worry about whether other people have it harder - not relevant. What does matter is that this is tough! So, maybe start by cutting yourself some slack and being a bit kinder to yourself. And then, ask for help! Some suggestions above. Are there any ways you might get your mother to be practically useful to you, despite the toxicity?